4 Reasons for Taking Family Vacations

Believe it or not, the family is often attacked in our world. Instead of it becoming a priority, it becomes a burden. Everyone gets so busy making a living that they forget to actually live.

If you’re anything like me, you love Family Vacations. (I mean who doesn’t?!?)

I remember my first-ever “family vacation” was my honeymoon at Disneyworld (if that even counts).

The following year when we had our first girl, we went to Disneyland (LG was 3 months).

Next, we did a staycation and cleaned up our home and just went around  San Diego and the Zoo.

Last year, we went to Sea World because we had some free passes.

This year, we are still debating on whether we should go to Disneyland again or not. Our oldest is old enough to understand this place, which makes us pretty excited! And then we would like to explore around our hometown, San Diego (places we’ve never been to)  & go around Los Angeles.

If you can’t tell already, my husband and I don’t have extravagant lives or jobs. We are both in full-time Christian Ministry and we have been ever since we graduated college 5 years ago.

No doubt, our vacations are not “all-that” compared to others but the most important thing to us about this time is just getting away from the routine and mundane schedule of our lives.

Here are the top reasons why I believe Family Vacations are a MUST:

1. TO REST & RELAX

When was the last time you actually, truly relaxed?  Sleeping does not count! Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines relaxation as 1. The act of slackening or remitting tension; as a relaxation of the muscles, fibers or nerves; a relaxation of the whole system.

I don’t know about you but I am way overdue for a good, long massage! I don’t know how many times my husband has cracked my back or massaged my feet but definitely more than I can remember! (He’s pretty awesome!)

We all have busy lives, whether you’re a WAHM, SAHM, or Working Mom (Outside of home). If we’re honest, life does take a toll on us physically, mentally, and spiritually, which is why we need some time dedicated to just relaxing. This means that we shouldn’t even think about work, chores around the house, or future projects. We should focus on relaxing our bodies and minds so that we may recover from the past year’s or years’ worth of work.

2. TO RECUPERATE

To recuperate means to recover or regain. Believe it or not, working makes you lose some things. You lose time (time-wasted and time-used), which could mean time you could’ve had with your spouse or your children. You have probably lost hair and maybe some brain cells from all the stress you’ve had to deal with. 😬😂

Getting away with your family might not get that time that was wasted or used, back, but you can definitely make it up by doing fun, memorable things. No matter how long your vacation may be, it should always be a time that the whole family looks forward to.

3. TO RE-ENERGIZE

To Energize means 1) To give strength or force to; to give active vigor to.

We all have been energized throughout the year. We could’ve taken naps, slept in on some days, or slept early. Doing these things give us energy to go on for the next day or few days.

To Re-energize means more than just taking naps, sleeping in, or sleeping early. It means to fully devote yourself to a certain amount of time or days to just get your strength back & many times, all it takes is a few days of doing absolutely nothing related to your occupation.

In order to properly function, we need enough rest and strength. When we have these, we will be ready for the next round of work, chores, and responsibilities.

4.  TO REFRESH

Refresh is defined as the following: To give new strength to; to invigorate; to relieve after fatigue; as, to refresh the body. (Exodus 23:12)

Being around the same people all the time and doing the same things all the time can sometimes cause us to be complacent. Have you ever gone out with your family and thought or even prayed that you wouldn’t see anyone you knew?!? Yeah, I’m totally guilty!

I never used to be like this but as my family grew, I’ve learned to cherish every moment with them and sometimes, that means sacrificing time with my & my husband’s friends. We’ve had to say, “NO” on multiple occasions whenever we were asked to go out, mainly because we wanted to just have family time. There’s just something awesome about spending time with family.

Would you believe it that even Jesus rested; not because he was tired but so he could show forth an example for us to follow.

He rested after 6 days of creating the beautiful world we live in. (Genesis 2)

He napped after He boarded a ship with His disciples, but was woken up after a raging storm came their way and frightened the disciples. (Luke 8)

Rest is needed in order to have new strength or be refreshed for what lies ahead of you.

“RESTING is not the same as LAZINESS.” J.Cabal

Although Jesus rested, you’ll find that even right after a nap, he went straight into doing miracles and healing people; in other words, He was working!

If you haven’t taken family vacations, I urge you to do so! They aren’t just for memory-making moments, but also for your health.

It is difficult to function with little or no sleep; imagine trying to take on a whole year without a designated time for just rest? WE WOULD LOSE OUR MINDS!

So, take a family vacation, whether it’s with just your spouse or with your spouse and children!

Your mind, body, and soul need to be refreshed!

Believe me, you need it & you deserve it!

 

 

SaveSave

SaveSave

Advertisements

Mom, You Matter!

Has anyone ever told you that you were unworthy, not enough, or that you didn’t matter?

I’m sure more often than not, you have been told either one of these; whether it be from a family member, a friend, or even a teacher. However, there is one person who whispers in our ears and if we aren’t careful, we listen to what he says and that is none other than the devil.

The devil would like nothing more for mothers than to see them fail at what they’ve been given. 

Moms have such a great influence whether they believe it to or not and whether they admit it or not. I mean, can you imagine a world without moms? I can’t, because that is impossible!

Mothers have a role that play a big part in the puzzle that we call Life. Without them, life would definitely be incomplete and be missing that one vital piece.

Now, there may be a few men reading this who play the role as both mother and father in the lives of their children. Please don’t shut me out.

From someone like me who was raised by a Father the majority of my life, I can honestly tell you that YOU MATTER! If you ever feel like you’re alone, remember that you are not. God is there to help you and guide you!

Psalm 16:11 says, “Thou wilt shew me the path of life: in thy presence is fulness of joy; at thy right hand there are pleasures for evermore.”

Sure, you may not be able to meet the same needs as a Mother would, but if single-parenting is what God has put your way, all you can do is make the best with what you have.

Being raised by my dad for almost 20 years before my Mom came into the picture physically, did not result in the worst life ever for me. In fact, I am the person I am today because of the trials that God allowed me to face and the choices I made.

I admit that there were times when I questioned God because all my friends had a mom they could confide in, talk to whenever they were going through a girl-problem, or walk them down the aisle, Was it right for me to do that? NO. Was it human? YES.

And that is exactly what we are, Moms. 

WE ARE HUMAN. We make mistakes. We fail everyday and a lot of times, we become discontent with how we look. Now, don’t get me wrong. If you can better yourself, I’m all for you. But what I mean is, we tend to compare ourselves with other moms. We see how they seem to “have-it-all” together and here we are, barely “having it!”

“Although the pictures we see on Social Media can be worth a thousand words, many times, they don’t show ALL THE WORDS.” J.Cabal

A mom can have a smile on and the world can think she’s the happiest person but in reality, she can be struggling with something.

A mom can seem like she has the best job ever when in reality she’s barely making ends meet.

A mom can look like she has the “perfect life” with the “perfect family” but who are we kidding? There is no such thing!

We all have been given different lives but one thing we have in common is motherhood or parenthood.

The Bible says in Luke 12:48b, “For unto whomsoever much is given, of him shall be much required:” 

We can all agree that being a mom is a great blessing if not the greatest, which means that it is considered “MUCH.” And according to that verse, when much is given, much is required.

I don’t mean to put a lot of pressure but I’m just quoting the Bible.

GOD REQUIRES A LOT FROM US. You can take that as something to encourage you to be a better mom or you can ignore it and reap the results of YOUR PARENTING, without Biblical wisdom or guidance.

If God has given us such an important role, then that must mean one thing: WE MATTER!

MOMS, WE MATTER! We are more important than we sometimes believe. Your words matter and your actions matter! How you say something and when you say something matters! How you treat your spouse and how you talk to your spouse matters!

Your love, care, support, prayers, advice, and time matter! So…

Love unconditionally! 

Care Sincerely! 

Support Consistently! 

Pray Fervently! 

Advise when Necessary! 

And Give of your Time Willingly! 

I’ll end with this. God can easily do anything. He doesn’t NEED us but He wants to USE us for the sole purpose of bringing glory to His name! To be used of God is a privilege, not an obligation, which is why we have a choice. We can choose to let Him lead us or we can choose to be led by something or someone else. Whatever we choose, don’t forget, our choice will affect our children because WE MATTER and WHAT WE DO MATTERS!

“I Don’t Love You.”

I don’t love you. The words that I never thought I would hear from any of my children, especially at a young age.  Words have a way to lift you up or bring you down.

Unfortunately, today, these four simple words pierced a hole in my heart when they came out of my 3-year old daughter’s mouth and were directed towards me.

Lately, my husband and I have limited what she is allowed to watch due to the negative influence some videos or shows have had on her. Bad parenting? Some say “yes”, others say “no.” But you, as your child’s parent know what is best for YOUR CHILD.

She was whining about something and I tried explaining to her that when she whines, the more I will NOT be able to help her. It’s difficult to understand what someone is saying or wants when they are crying and the same goes for children; in fact, the more difficult it is with children .

She cried for a good 5 minutes. I let her cry because sometimes, that’s what you have to do as a parent – let them cry and wait until they are ready to talk. I took her to a separate room while she continued crying and just waited for her to finish. Then, she said those hurtful words – I DON’T LOVE YOU.

At that moment, I didn’t know if I heard her correctly so I kindly asked her, “What did you say?” and surely enough, she said, “I don’t love you.”

CRAZY, RIGHT?!?

I sat there just staring at her and finally, I told her how mean and hurtful those words were. I could’ve blown up at my daughter but the Lord reminded me how many times I “said” those words to Him; maybe not verbally, but with my actions.

She did eventually cry again, but this time to tell me she was sorry and that she “LOVED ME!” After a few minutes, I got up to brew some coffee and make myself a sandwich. I figured my daughter would want one so I asked her and she replied, “Yes, please.”

As I was making those peanut butter sandwiches, God reminded me, “But I still love you” and that’s exactly how I felt towards my daughter and I had an opportunity to display God’s love towards her by serving her in spite of what she said or how she hurt me. 

As children of God, we can be guilty of hurting our Heavenly Father and sometimes even saying those four words, “I don’t love you.”

But it’s in God’s nature to still love us, no matter what we do or say against Him. 

“When we realize how UNCONDITIONAL God’s love is towards us, we will remember how UNDESERVING we are of His Love.” – JudyLynn Cabal

I finished making the sandwiches and handed my daughter, hers, which she was grateful for. And just to make sure, I asked her if she loved me or didn’t love me.

She replied, “I love you, Mommy.” 

So the next time you hurt the Lord by saying or showing “You don’t love Him,” just remember, He’s saying, “But I still love you.” It is then we will quickly realize that an apology is the least we can do but is a great start to repairing the relationship.

1 John 1:9  If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just to forgive us our sins, and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.
Romans 5:8 – But God commendeth his love toward us, in that, while we were yet sinners, Christ died for us.
1 John 4:7-8 –  Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God. He that loveth not knoweth not God; for God is love.
1 Corinthians 13:4  Charity suffereth long, and is kind;

SaveSave