11 Misconceptions of Full- Time Christian Ministry Workers

I didn’t have the privilege of growing up in a Christian home but I did have the privilege of attending a Christian school the last two years of high school. I have friends who are now in full-time Christian Ministry and others who are working at secular jobs. Over my “official” years of being in Christian Ministry, I have been constantly reminded of a few things.

I. I am reminded that surrendering your life to serve the Lord isn’t a burden, but a blessing. Yes, there are burdens that you will carry as a minister of Christ but the blessings He pours far outweigh any of those burdens.

II. Being called to serve the Lord takes faith. You are trusting that if you surrender to God’s call for your life,the Lord will provide the needs of you and your family.

11 MISCONCEPTIONS of Full-Time Ministry Workers:

      1. Since he/she works at the church, teaches at a private school, preaches at Christian camps or cleans the toilets at church, he must be “more-called” than someone who isn’t working in either of those areas.

No Christian is “more-called” than another Christian. God calls us to do different things and calls us, not according to who we are or what we are capable of doing, but according to HIS OWN PURPOSE, which he established BEFORE the world began.

Matthew 22:14 |1 Corinthians 1:26 | Philippians 1:6 | 2 Timothy 1:9

      2. Since you work in a Christian environment, everyone will be Christ-like ALL.THE.TIME.

NOPE! It’s best if everyone in your work environment is a Christian but sadly, even in Christian workplaces, there are unsaved employees or staff members. Your job is TO STILL BE Salt & Light. Someone once told me, “One of the easiest places to backslide is in a Christian workplace or environment.”  

Matthew 5:16

      3.  Since you work at the church and are getting paid for it, you should be part of most, if not all the ministries & no one else should lead those ministries except those on staff.

TOTALLY FALSE! I’ll be honest, I hate that mentality. As staff members of a church or Christian organization, our job is to assist the Pastor or Leader. Yes, we should SET THE EXAMPLE and be involved in the ministries provided but to DO ALL OF THEM or LIMIT THE LEADERS OF THOSE MINISTRIES to ONLY Staff members is unhealthy and absolutely ridiculous.

       4.   Since you are an employee at the church, you should be present EVERY. SINGLE. TIME the church doors are open. 

I remember trying to convince myself when I first started growing as a new Christian that I would be at church any time and every time the church doors were open… Although that isn’t necessarily bad, we can use that as our reason for serving… to make sure that we are “seen” any time and every time something is going on at church. If we aren’t careful, we become “PERFORMANCE” Christians rather than “WORSHIPPING” Christians.  We end up doing things for people rather than serving to worship God. 

Although church is great place to fellowship with other Believers, we should go to church for the main purpose of Worshipping God, not fellowshipping with others.

      5. Since you are a “Full-Time” Christian minister/worker, you must read your Bible all the time and live a consecrated life; or what others may consider, “not knowing how to have fun.”

Being a Christian doesn’t mean that you are NO LONGER Human. You are very much human! In fact, as a Christian, you have more to wrestle with… you are in constant battles with your flesh and the Spirit that now lives in you as a child of God.

There will be times when you will forget or fail to prioritize reading your Bible or praying.

There will be times when you will say things that you wish you would have never said.

There will be times when you give in to your flesh rather than being led by the Holy Spirit.

BUT, a Child of God doesn’t give up…

If you missed reading your Bible or praying one day, get back up and start again.

If you haven’t been in church in so long, get back up and start going again. (Don’t worry about what others may say)

And who ever said that Christians don’t know how to have fun??!??

We have the most fun! Sure, we may not be out there at the bars every weekend, and we are so glad we aren’t! Because who would want to party all night and wake up the next morning trying to remember what happened or “who” happened? Definitely, not me!

      6. Since you “get paid” to serve the Lord, you should be the one that’s faithful in giving your tithes and offerings. 

God did not just command those in Christian Ministry to be faithful in giving their Tithes and Offerings. He has called every  Christian to give. I mean if you read the verses after each of these verses, you would be crazy not to want to give back to God. After all, every thing we have is His.

Proverbs 3:9  | Malachi 3:8 |   Malachi 3:10  | Proverbs 3:9

        7. Since you have surrendered your life to serve the Lord, your kids will be upright and perfect and CANNOT or “ARE NOT ALLOWED” to make mistakes and be kids.

Puh-lease!!! Kids will be kids. For the longest time, I had these high expectations of anyone that was a Pastor’s Kid, Missionary’s Kid, or Kids with Parents in Full-Time Ministry. But I’ve come to realize that just because someone is a Pastor’s kid doesn’t make them more of saint than someone who isn’t a Pastor’s kid. Sure, we will have our expectations but we shouldn’t be surprised if “that” child acts just any other child.

       8. Since you work at church, your life is much more easier than the person who is working at a secular job, doing their best to be “Salt & Light.”

I’ve worked at both secular and ministry jobs. Being at a secular job takes a lot of courage because every day, you are bombarded with things of this world; temptations, curiosity, lust, etc. However, being at a ministry job still requires you to stand up when other “Christians” don’t necessarily act or talk like Christians; There are temptations many Full-Time Ministry Workers face and sadly sometimes, they are similar to what those at secular jobs face.

      9. Since you work in “full-time” Christian Ministry, you have “in” on all the drama and gossip that’s going around.

As much as many believe that, it’s not true to every Christian Ministry. In fact, many Ministry Workers would prefer not to know a lot of stuff, simply because it’s another “burden” they will have to carry. So, no! We don’t know all the drama and gossip in the church and as much as our “nosy”-selves may want to know, we really don’t want to have a part.

    10. Since you work in full-time Christian Ministry, you are more honored and preferred by visiting preachers than the person who just got off work and is sitting, trying to fight their sleep. 

Not true! Sometimes, visiting preachers may remember the names of those that are Ministry Workers easily because they can associate them with a title, such as Mr. D. Harriss – Youth Pastor. But that doesn’t mean that they are more appreciated than some faithful laymen who comes service after service, despite their busy work schedule. In fact, in my opinion, they have a deeper appreciation for those who work secular jobs and are still faithful!

11. Since you are in full-time Christian Ministry, you have more time to get stuff done and can easily serve the Lord.

Honestly, everyone has the same amount time – twenty-four hours a day, seven days a week. Sure, doing stuff at the church is part of our “job” but that doesn’t mean that we have more time or an easier time to serve the Lord. Sometimes, working at a church is harder than it looks or sounds. There’s a constant reminder to be flexible, be available, and meet expectations on top of your regular life as a parent, spouse, or friend. So going back to the first misconception about Ministry Workers being “more called,” remember, before the world began, God already knew what your purpose was; what your calling was.

This post is in no way a means of comparing Full-Time Christian Ministry Workers and those working at Secular Jobs. It is not meant to put one “higher” than the other but to have a better understanding and to set things straight. Sometimes, what you think and assume isn’t really the truth.

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These are just 11 Misconceptions. I am positive that there are more but if you are a Full-Time Christian Worker, no matter what some one expects from you, remember, you are REALLY, TRULY serving the Lord, not people. (But you must still show your good works to people, so that they may see Christ in you).

If you are a Christian who isn’t in Full-Time Christian Ministry, I hope you have a better understanding and different view of those who are in Full-Time Christian Ministry. Just like you, they are just trying to serve the Lord. They are just doing it differently. Sure, it may include their paycheck but it is God who called them. They could’ve easily fulfilled another calling but the highest calling is whatever God called you to do, whether it be in Ministry or at a Secular Job. 

***Featured Photo by Ben White on Unsplash!

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10 Ways to be a Help Meet

I am so excited for this coming March, not because we’ll have a crazy work schedule but because my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years of marriage!!! Crazy, right?!? We were just these little high schoolers who dated each other and caused a lot of drama and then ended up going to college & graduating together! Time flies too fast, especially when you’re having fun!

I decided to jot down 10 ways that I am still trying to “master” and I put that in quotes because marriage is not something you master; marriage is something that you continually work at and eventually reap the benefits of.

Now, take note that not every marriage is the same… there will be similarities but don’t assume that because these things work for me, they will for you too. I am merely just sharing from MY MARRIAGE & hope that you can find at least ONE thing you can implement or continue to do in yours.

Without further ado,

1) Tell your spouse VERBALLY how much you love him. How many times do we get so caught up with “LIFE” that we sometimes forget to say those three words – “I.LOVE.YOU”? My husband is better at reminding me that he loves me than I am of reminding him.  I am so horrible at this. At times, my husband would say those three special words but crazy me, my mind or attention would be somewhere else and I easily forget how special those words are and just for the sake of getting it done, I say them… blatantly & with little sincerity. David usually likes for me to look into his eyes and say those words. I am so guilty and my prayer is to improve in this area.Well, it’s a New Year and you and I can do new things, starting with our marriages.

2) Pray for him DAILY. If you didn’t already know, marriages are under attack. The devil would love to see God’s meaning of Marriage become twisted, perverted, & unappreciated. As a wife, it is my duty and privilege to pray for my husband, especially since God has made him the Head of our home. If the head of the household is not in lined with God’s Word, it’s harder for the rest of the family to follow him. So pray for him, earnestly, faithfully, and sincerely. Here are a few ways I found on Pinterest:

a) From Head to Toe 

b) 1-Week Prayer Guide

c) 5 Prayers to Daily Pray

3) Praise him in front of your children as often as possible. Your children need to see that their “Daddy” isn’t just a man, he’s thee man! He should be the handsomest, most hardworking, most amazing man they will ever come into contact with. They should (when the right time comes) desire to marry someone like Daddy.

4) Praise him in front of others. With all the technology we have now, it’s so easy to let the “whole world” know anything and everything! If we have that capability, why not let the “whole world” know that you married the most incredible guy on planet earth (even though they may not think so). I mean, when was the last time you PRAISED your spouse on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter?

“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” (Prov. 31:23)

Here is a 1-week Praise Guide from Rachel Wojo.

5) Admire him like you used to during your “dating” years. Of course, dating each other shouldn’t end after marriage. Rather, it should continue. But what I mean is, “look” at him, “treat” him, and “adore” him like you did BEFORE you got married. Admiration for your spouse shouldn’t stop at the beginning of your marriage but should continue AND continue to grow as the years go.

6)“Criticize” him. It’s often that those closest to us can become our biggest critics. Criticism isn’t always bad. There’s a right WAY and as I’ve learned the hard way, a RIGHT TIME to criticize. Before you say something to your husband, practice saying it to yourself in a discrete and sweet way. For the longest time, my husband did not take my criticisms so well and mainly due to HOW I said them rather than WHAT I said. For example:

Instead of, “Wow, I can’t believe you didn’t understand what I meant when I said….”

Rather say, “Honey/Baby/Sweetheart, was I clear when I said… or was I hard to understand?

Instead of directing it right to him, indirectly direct it to him by directing it to you? (Does that even make sense?) Well, pretty much, have tact and grace.

7) Compliment him. How often do we give compliments to those that aren’t our loved ones? I’ll be honest to admit that I’ve done that more times than I can count. And how sad is it for our spouse to hear more compliments from another co-worker than from his own wife? Be careful! Make sure this isn’t happening in your family.  I have known people, even preachers to fall into sin of this sort and end up leaving a family they “supposedly” loved. Compliment him about everything that you notice. Some may be:

  a) You smell really good right now! I love it when your wear that deodorant.

    b) Thank you for putting gas in the van. I appreciate how thoughtful you were in doing that.

    c) You did a super job taking care of that problem!

    d) You encourage me to reach out and love people more.

You should be a critic to your spouse but more so, his #1 cheerleader! (compliment/or isn’t really a word so cheerleader should suffice) 🙂

8) Elevate his talents. Find something that he’s good at – just one thing. Don’t tell me that he isn’t good at anything because if he wasn’t, why would you have married him in the first place? My husband is very artistic. If he really wanted to, he could’ve been a voice actor, cartoonist, comic book artist, a HOLLYWOOD star but eh… no thanks, I’m keeping this guy all to myself (haha). Your spouse may be a good cook, great gardener, a sports guy, a singer, whatever… JUST FIND SOMETHING & elevate it,  meaning, let him use it in ways that are within your means & calling. Don’t let him lose it… remember, if you don’t use it, you lose it.

9) Do what he “enjoys” once in a while. As humans, it’s quite easy and convenient to do what WE want. We are selfish people by nature. But if you really want to be a help-meet to your spouse, make time for what’s “important” to him. If your spouse enjoys something, then that means it has some level of importance. So go out & fish with him, play some ball, go for a drive, whatever… just do something YOU KNOW he enjoys and don’t wait for him to mention it. Be the one to initiate so he knows that you are actually making an effort.

10) Make him FEEL like he’s the most special person in the world. Apart from Christ, your spouse should be your very best friend. I grew up having best friends, mostly in Grade School to Junior High. During high school, I kind of drifted away from that mentality. However, I do have a few very close friends, whom I am very grateful for. So please don’t get me wrong, if you have girl or guy best friend who is not your spouse, awesome (so long as your friendship is not as intimate as with your spouse). For me, there’s only ONE human person that I would share anything and everything with and that is my husband, who is my best friend. A best friend should feel more special than any regular friend that you have and that is how you should make your spouse feel. Feelings aren’t everything, I know, but there is a reason why God made us with emotions. So with 2017, make him FEEL like he’s beyond special!

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen. 2:18)

You can either be a help-meet to your spouse or a help, meet for him. Either way, God created you so that your husband wouldn’t be alone. 🙂

Just as you joined hands on your Big Day, may you join hands in this journey we call marriage. 

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By God’s Grace,

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“Behold, I will do a new thing…”

No doubt, many either stayed up to RING IN THE NEW YEAR or slept FROM ALL THE FUN CHEER!

But one thing is for sure, if you are reading this, you made it into 2017! Congrats! I’m sure 2016 had its shares of good & bad and ups & downs, and 2017 will probably be the same to a point. We don’t know a lot of what 2017 may hold, but as Christians, we shouldn’t fret because we already know who holds tomorrow! (Praise Jesus!)

I’m sure there are millions and even billions out there who have set “NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS.” I, for one, didn’t necessarily make resolutions but instead set goals with a game plan. I’m sure that not all of my “plans” will go as I want them to this year but someone wise once said,

“He who aims at nothing hits it every time.” 

 

I should at least try, right?

How silly would it be for someone to go to war without a game plan?

I’d say, ridiculous!

But yet, as Christians, we carelessly go to war EVERYDAY without THEE GAME PLAN – The Word of God and if you read the Bible, you will find that in this Book, there is the ARMOUR of God.

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Now, going back to that quote… I’m sure with the NEW YEAR, many wanted to have some “Spiritual Encouragement” and therefore attended church on Sunday. After all, what better way to start 2017 than by going to God’s House, right? But sadly, that won’t be “A REGULAR THING.” I don’t mean to be negative but I’ve seen it year after year…

Today, Church is viewed as “an obligation” rather than “a privilege.” It has become more of a gathering place of friends to fellowship rather than a place to worship the Living God. It has become a place for entertainment rather than a place of exalting the One, True God. Rather than it being a safe-haven for the hurt, it becomes a secret-place of gossip.

With 2017 already here,  let’s strive to make it different from 2016. Let’s make it better. Let’s include the ONE who gave it to us, God.

So I ask you, “How was your 1st day of 2017?” Maybe you ended 2016 believing in your heart that you wouldn’t do certain things or say certain things, but there you were already saying something that wasn’t honest, just, pure, lovely, or of good report. Well, friend, I’m here to tell you that tomorrow can be different. It can be better with God’s help.

Isaiah 43:19 says, “Behold, I will do a NEW THING; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.”

No matter how your 2016 went, if you know Jesus as your Saviour, you can have confidence. You can accomplish what you never thought you could. You can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth you. (Philippians 4:13)

Don’t be discouraged by whatever happened or didn’t happen in 2016.

Today is a NEW DAY and 2017 is a NEW YEAR!

Don’t be so caught up on LAST YEAR that you miss out on the NEW OPPORTUNITIES, NEW PRIVILEGES, and NEW BLESSINGS that God has in store for you TODAY & THIS YEAR!

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***Featured Photo by Stephen Crowley on Unsplash!

When will it be YOUR day?

No doubt, everyone has gone to at least one appointment in their lifetime. It could’ve been a doctor’s, dentist’s, psychiatrist’s, wedding planner’s… you name it. We’ve all been to some kind of appointment. I remember being pregnant with both my girls and all the appointments & checkups I had. I usually didn’t mind them and I had the privilege of having my husband come with me to most, if not all of them.

 

So what’s the purpose of an appointment?

For the doctor to check and tell you what your diagnosis is.

To follow up on a prior illness or diagnosis.

In the past 3 weeks in our church, we’ve held 5 memorial services for 3 different people and but in those 3 weeks outside of our church family, I’ve known 2 MORE people that have lost a loved one plus 1 person I knew personally (for a short time).

From the past few years, I’ve noticed this to be a “trend” (and I don’t say that carelessly) especially during the holidays. People slip into eternity by the numbers!

I have never lost an immediate family member or someone really, really close to me. I have known people that have gone on into eternity, but no one so close to me like a parent, sibling, grandparent, best friend, etc.

You see, appointments aren’t “bad” per se until we hear the word, “cancer” or the words “serious illness.”

In these past weeks as I’ve helped prepare the program for the memorial services, I’ve been reminded of how short life truly is… and the confirmation for me to write about this blog post happened on the Sunday Morning after we had the first 2 church members lose their loved ones…when the Preacher was preaching about our lives and the shortness of them.

You see…

Death is inevitable; it is certain to happen and it is unavoidable.

Romans 6:23 – “For the wages of sins death…”

Death will come. Death is no respecter of persons, age, talent, wealth, etc.

Hebrews 9:27a – “And as it is appointed unto men once to die..”

Death is that NON-CANCELLABLE APPOINTMENT. 

Hebrews 9:27b -“…but after this the judgment:”

You can cancel your upcoming doctor’s appointment or postpone it, but you FOR SURE CANNOT CANCEL YOUR Death Appointment. 

There will come a time in your life when IT’S YOUR TIME to go.

The REAL question isn’t “When?” but “Are you ready?”

There are 3 types of people in this world when it comes to death:

  1. Those who are prepared for their death
  2. Those who are preparing for their death
  3. Those who are not prepared for their death

Which one are you? How do you base what type of person you are?

Do you think you’ve done enough good? Do you think you haven’t really done bad?

If you are prepared, how are have you done so? How are you preparing for that Death Appointment?

As I sat in one of the memorial services 3 weeks ago, I heard a lot of good things said about the person who had passed… but more than that I noticed one person… the eldest son of the woman who had passed. Not once did I see him cry…In fact, he had that same big smile that he always has 🙂

You may be thinking, “How in the world was he NOT CYRING?” Believe me, I thought the same thing.

Well, I’m positive he’s done his share of crying, maybe with his own family but as he stood up there to lead the schedule of the program, the congregational singing, and even his “special words” for his mom, you can tell he had such grace that came from no one else but the Lord. How he managed to maintain such poise still blesses my heart and makes me  burdened for my own family (to make sure that I will be able to see them again, in case it was their time).

You see, Mark was able to maintain such poise and have such grace because he KNEW without a shadow of a doubt that although he may never see or talk to his mom here on earth, there will come a time when he will be reunited with her again. He has HOPE!

Earlier, we mentioned how appointments can seem bad especially when we hear the word, “cancer.”  The reality is, WE ALL HAVE CANCER & that cancer is SIN.

One of my professors in college used to say,

“Sin will take you farther than you want to go, Cost you more than you want to pay,

& Keep you longer than you want to stay.”

My friends, Sin is a disease and is continually spreading…

Some cancers may have cures but I can GUARANTEE you that Sin HAS A CURE and that remedy is JESUS.

If you are ready for that Death Appointment, that means that there was a time in your life when you realized that you were a sinner and accepted the fact that because you sin, you will die… and “that death” is not just a physical death, it is a spiritual one where you will be separated from God.

You chose to accept Jesus Christ as your personal Savior and because you did that, you are ready for that Death Appointment.

If you are getting ready for that Death Appointment, it means to me that you have already accepted the ONLY Remedy and now are just doing what you are commanded to do until that day comes. Why? For the purpose of glorifying your Maker and receiving rewards that you will eventually cast at the feet of Jesus.  (Please don’t confuse this with WORKING for your salvation)

If you absolutely know that you are not prepared for that Death Appointment, please know that you can be! If you are really, truly serious about this matter, I will be happy to show you. Please do not hesitate to contact me.

So many people live life with the motto, YOLO – You Only Live Once.

This motto is true to a point and as a Believer, I know for sure that I will not live once.

Believer in Christ – dies once and lives twice

Non-Believer in Christ –  lives once and dies twice 

As a believer in Christ, I know that I do not need to fret about tomorrow because I know WHO HOLDS TOMORROW & I AM H.O.P.E.(see acronym below)

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Just as Mark displayed that HOPE, you can too by BEING PREPARED for that NON-CANCELLABLE APPOINTMENT.

***I started writing this post about 3 weeks ago and I have just been so busy with work , memorial services,  and life that I wasn’t able to finish it and now that I think about it – It was all part of God’s plan!
You see, in these 3 weeks that I’ve taken to write this post (on & off), there has been additions to the death numbers. 
I have known and heard of a total of 7 deaths. 
Now you may be thinking that “7” isn’t a lot… but it’s not about how many but the fact that I knew 4 out of those 7 people that slipped into eternity… 

People don’t take death seriously until it’s someone they know or are related or close to. 

This holiday season, let’s love a little more, give a little more, and hug and hold onto those who are dear to us because before we know, they may be next.

As horrible as that sounds, it’s possible and it’s best to be prepared.

“One life will soon be past; Only what’s done for Christ will last.” – C.T. Studd

Are YOU ready for YOUR appointment?

 

***Featured photo by Sonja Langford on Unsplash!

My TWO & A HALF year old teacher…

Hi Friends!

I apologize for the lack of blog posts. It has been a crazy week already, which began last week (before Thanksgiving). Let’s be honest, Thanksgiving Break isn’t really a “break” when you’re cooking, cleaning, moving out, or preparing for a busy week of “Viewing” Services for people that have passed away. TWO Families from our church lost a loved one on the same day – and in addition, 2 days BEFORE Thanksgiving…  😦

Please keep them in your prayers, especially as the Holiday Season is upon us.

On another note…

Today was the start of a “Weekly Routine” that I would like to do with my children. On Wednesdays, I don’t go into work until the afternoon and I didn’t really see how much could be accomplished and how many memories could be made on days like these… UNTIL TODAY!

As usual, we got up, ate breakfast, watched a little “Kid’s Netflix” and got ready for a Fun Day. Lately, my oldest daughter, LG, has been saying how she’s tired after waking up from a good night’s rest or an afternoon nap…

 Uhm… I’m thinking, “Girl, why you tired?” LOL!

Well, after FINALLY getting ready, we headed out!

BabyGirl AJ wasn’t having it in her carseat. She cried the whole ride to the park (which was like 5 minutes… haha)

And when we finally got there, I was so excited to have the whole park all. to. ourselves! (Woot Woot!)

We got in… and LG (who is 2 1/2) went straight for the slides! AJ (who just turned 1 in October) was playing with and trying to eat the stuff on the ground…

I mean, Can they  be ANY MORE different?!?

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After a good hour or so of playing on the slides, swings, and dirt… 

I told LG that it was time to go…

She said, “Shure up, Mommy!”

I thought to myself, Did she just tell me to “Shut up?”  Wanting to make sure I didn’t hear that, I asked her again what she had said and she said…

“Chuur up, MOMMY!”

Phew! I was so glad she didn’t say, “Shut up!” I was relieved but also curious about why my 2 1/2 year-old was telling me to C-H-E-E-R     U-P…

But then it hit me… When I was telling her that it was time to go… I must’ve had a sad face. And she knew to tell me, “CHEER UP!”

I thought to myself, “Weren’t you just born yesterday?!? PLEASE stop growing too fast!”

I’ve heard story after story about children who are grown, thanking their MOM for the love & INFLUENCE she gave them.

And TODAY was just a reminder TO ME that “Mommy-ing” isn’t easy but is definitely worth it.

Have you heard the saying, “Do as I say, not as I do?”

Well, if you haven’t, there you go!  As I was thinking about MOTHERHOOD, I thought about some things my LG was picking up from me – like mannerisms.

I’m the type of person that when frustrated or angry could say things that I will end up regretting. But lately, it’s what I’ve done.

Some times, when the kids spill something, I can get “in the flesh”  or “on the edge” (as pictured below) and not really yell or curse (NO! NO!) but I get disgruntled and I “Grunt” or say “Ugh” and sadly, I’ve heard LG say that and when I hear it, it’s not pleasing to the ears.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY HOW I SOUND if I’m not careful.

So there she was at the park, telling me to “CHEER UP!” Inside of me, there was some excitement as I’v never heard her say those words before but also some sadness that she’s quickly growing up and quickly picking up on everything… what she watches, what she sees, hears, gets exposed to.

As parents, we need to be careful how we live. If we want our children to turn out right, then we need to set a good example because we are their ROLE MODELS whether we like it or not. We can’t expect what we don’t inspectLead by example and be a good example.

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So my point is… Don’t let it be too late for you to start TEACHING your children…

THE RIGHT THINGS

THE RIGHT WAY

AT THE RIGHT TIME… and that time is NOW!

I thank God that He used my little toddler to TEACH ME a lesson about motherhood today.

 
***Featured photo from Annie Spratt on Unsplash!

PRELUDE

LIFE. IT CONSISTS OF A BEGINNING, MIDDLE, AND END.  The only two that are evident are the beginning (birth) and the end (death).  We don’t really know when the middle of our life is, simply because we don’t know when the end of our life is. In addition, BEFORE YOU WERE EVEN BORN, YOU WERE ALREADY THOUGHT OF AND ON SOMEONE’S MIND.

WEBSTER’S 1828 DICTIONARY DEFINES “PRELUDE” as Something introductory or that shows what is to follow; something preceding which bears some relation or resemblance to that which is to follow.

Can you believe that your whole life is already planned out by an ALMIGHTY, ALL-POWERFUL, ALL-KNOWING GOD? The sad thing is that PLANS DON’T ALWAYS WORK OUT, do they? Especially, when we choose to do things for our own selfish pride or selfish ambitions.

You see, there are two perspectives in life – the world’s & God’s.

The World’s perspective says, “Do whatever pleases, satisfies, or benefits you.”

I’m not against doing things to please yourself. Hey, sometimes you have to have your “ME” time to stay sane. What is meant by world’s perspective is when EVERYTHING that you do is centered around pleasing , satisfying, or benefiting you.

On the contrary, God’s perspective is, “Do what pleases or satisfies Him and benefits the Kingdom of Heaven.”  If you really think about it, God doesn’t owe us anything. We owe Him everything. He sacrificed ALL HE HAD just so we could have what we need, and that “need” is a Saviour. God paid a debt He didn’t owe and we had a debt we couldn’t pay. All the things that we have are from God, especially LIFE.

Births and Deaths can have one thing in common – the celebrating of a life.

April 20, 2014 – BabyGirl LG is Born

When a baby is born, joy is experienced, no matter how much pain was involved. I remember giving birth to my first-born daughter. Those contractions were killer! (Can I get a witness?!?) I was already in so much pain at 3cm. I can still remember my husband telling me that HE NEVER WANTED ME TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN. Well, unfortunately for him,  9 months after LG was born, we found out we were expecting our second child! (Hallelujah for me & fear for my husband… haha! JK!)  Don’t worry, he regrets saying that and is VERY GRATEFUL FOR OUR SECOND DAUGHTER, AJ. Only a mother who has given birth can testify that the pain felt before giving birth was nothing compared to the joy when that baby came out and was placed in her arms, as she cried tears of joy – simply because a NEW LIFE was being celebrated.

October 22, 2015 – BabyGirl AJ is Born

When someone dies, a memorial service is usually held. Why? To remember the life that they lived. Sure, it may not have been a “PERFECT” life (which does not even exist) and sure, the person that died may have been a criminal but to some, they were loved, especially by family members and close friends. (Please don’t misunderstand me for thinking that it’s OK to be a criminal – OBVIOUSLY, it’s not!)  But can you see where I’m going with this?

When someone is born or dies, something is celebrated.

Now, there is only one person that knows when someone will be born and when someone will die. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21 KJV).  Just as God spoke the world into existence, God decides when and how a person is born and when and how a person dies.

If we just engraved into our hearts and minds that OUR LIVES have a specific BLUEPRINT and that blueprint was designed by the Almighty Creator and that EACH LIFE was made for a SPECIFIC PURPOSE, then maybe we would choose to be WISER in how we lived our lives.

Instead of living for ourselves, we would live for God and others. After all, the two greatest commandments are to love God with all our hearts, soul, and mind and to love our neighbours (others) as ourselves. (Matthew 22:37-39 KJV)

If you are reading this, you may be at a point in your life where YOUR LIFE seems like it has no meaning; FRIEND, God made you for a purpose but it is up to you to find that purpose. (Stick around as we will be talking about PURPOSE in the next few weeks) But DON’T GIVE UP! Life may be difficult right now but that is what life is made up of. Without the difficulties of life, you wouldn’t be the strong person that you are or could be.

You may be reading this and thinking that you’ve been doing a good job with how you’ve lived your life and I would like to commend you! I’m sure it wasn’t easy to get to where you are right now but you have made good and wise decisions and you are reaping the benefits of that so KEEP IT UP but REMEMBER, don’t settle for where you are now – STRIVE TO BE BETTER AND DO BETTER!

Remember, The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb!

You may be reading this and may not be either of two people that were described but rather someone who DOESN’T EVEN BELIEVE IN GOD. Many come to that point where they question God’s existence or goodness because of a tragedy that has occurred in their life. You have grown to be bitter towards God and life. But FRIEND, YOU CANNOT BE MAD AT SOMEONE THAT YOU BELIEVE DOES NOT EXIST. Remember that no matter how you feel about God, He still loves you. He loved you so much that HE SACRIFICED AND ALLOWED HIS ONLY SON to die for you… Yes, you! There is nothing that you could do or say that would change His love for you.

Collagetrio.com defined PRELUDE as the following:

“Think of it as “welcoming music.”  By no means bland, this is harmonious music with a calm, often pastoral air to it, designed to set a tone of relaxed composure, alleviate the stresses of traveling, and – added bonus! – it lets the guests know by ear where the ceremony will be located.  It usually starts between 15 and 30 minutes before the ceremony begins.”

No doubt, when you were born, there was some kind of celebration. But before anyone on this earth saw you, SOMEONE ALREADY KNEW YOU (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV). The last 15-30 minutes before you were born, God already had some music playing as if to prepare for your GRAND ENTRANCE.

So, if He knew you before you were even born, don’t you think it would be wise to keep your life in His Hands? After all, he knows what’s best for you!

 

LG @ 2 and 1/2 years young!

AJ @ 1 Year Young!

“We are designed by God for accomplishment, engineered for success, 

and endowed with seeds of greatness.”

– Christine Caine

I can’t see all that my two girls will accomplish, succeed, & be great in, but GOD DOES!

I would rather have Him steer the wheel for their lives than I do so and mess it up by my versions of ACCOMPLISHMENT, SUCCESS, and GREATNESS. They may not be bad, but for sure, they won’t be what God purposed for their lives.

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***Featured Photo by Jordan Mcqueen on Unsplash!

MY FIRST BLOG: BEFORE KNOWING ME, THIS IS FOR YOU!

Hello to everyone that will read this post. Although my faith is really small right now, at least I’m stepping out! So, here goes!

Welcome to “Loving Life Limitlessly!”

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Loving (Love – God, Others, You, Marriage, Children, Job, Ministry),

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