My TWO & A HALF year old teacher…

Hi Friends!

I apologize for the lack of blog posts. It has been a crazy week already, which began last week (before Thanksgiving). Let’s be honest, Thanksgiving Break isn’t really a “break” when you’re cooking, cleaning, moving out, or preparing for a busy week of “Viewing” Services for people that have passed away. TWO Families from our church lost a loved one on the same day – and in addition, 2 days BEFORE Thanksgiving…  😦

Please keep them in your prayers, especially as the Holiday Season is upon us.

On another note…

Today was the start of a “Weekly Routine” that I would like to do with my children. On Wednesdays, I don’t go into work until the afternoon and I didn’t really see how much could be accomplished and how many memories could be made on days like these… UNTIL TODAY!

As usual, we got up, ate breakfast, watched a little “Kid’s Netflix” and got ready for a Fun Day. Lately, my oldest daughter, LG, has been saying how she’s tired after waking up from a good night’s rest or an afternoon nap…

 Uhm… I’m thinking, “Girl, why you tired?” LOL!

Well, after FINALLY getting ready, we headed out!

BabyGirl AJ wasn’t having it in her carseat. She cried the whole ride to the park (which was like 5 minutes… haha)

And when we finally got there, I was so excited to have the whole park all. to. ourselves! (Woot Woot!)

We got in… and LG (who is 2 1/2) went straight for the slides! AJ (who just turned 1 in October) was playing with and trying to eat the stuff on the ground…

I mean, Can they  be ANY MORE different?!?



After a good hour or so of playing on the slides, swings, and dirt… 

I told LG that it was time to go…

She said, “Shure up, Mommy!”

I thought to myself, Did she just tell me to “Shut up?”  Wanting to make sure I didn’t hear that, I asked her again what she had said and she said…

“Chuur up, MOMMY!”

Phew! I was so glad she didn’t say, “Shut up!” I was relieved but also curious about why my 2 1/2 year-old was telling me to C-H-E-E-R     U-P…

But then it hit me… When I was telling her that it was time to go… I must’ve had a sad face. And she knew to tell me, “CHEER UP!”

I thought to myself, “Weren’t you just born yesterday?!? PLEASE stop growing too fast!”

I’ve heard story after story about children who are grown, thanking their MOM for the love & INFLUENCE she gave them.

And TODAY was just a reminder TO ME that “Mommy-ing” isn’t easy but is definitely worth it.

Have you heard the saying, “Do as I say, not as I do?”

Well, if you haven’t, there you go!  As I was thinking about MOTHERHOOD, I thought about some things my LG was picking up from me – like mannerisms.

I’m the type of person that when frustrated or angry could say things that I will end up regretting. But lately, it’s what I’ve done.

Some times, when the kids spill something, I can get “in the flesh”  or “on the edge” (as pictured below) and not really yell or curse (NO! NO!) but I get disgruntled and I “Grunt” or say “Ugh” and sadly, I’ve heard LG say that and when I hear it, it’s not pleasing to the ears.

AND THAT’S EXACTLY HOW I SOUND if I’m not careful.

So there she was at the park, telling me to “CHEER UP!” Inside of me, there was some excitement as I’v never heard her say those words before but also some sadness that she’s quickly growing up and quickly picking up on everything… what she watches, what she sees, hears, gets exposed to.

As parents, we need to be careful how we live. If we want our children to turn out right, then we need to set a good example because we are their ROLE MODELS whether we like it or not. We can’t expect what we don’t inspectLead by example and be a good example.


So my point is… Don’t let it be too late for you to start TEACHING your children…



AT THE RIGHT TIME… and that time is NOW!

I thank God that He used my little toddler to TEACH ME a lesson about motherhood today.

***Featured photo from Annie Spratt on Unsplash!


UN – Thankfulness

It’s that time of the year when everyone is excited for the holidays but not looking forward to ALL THE WEIGHT they’ll gain from all the yummy food! 

Today officially marked the Holiday Season for me because of the Cold Weather! It rained! (and I can still hear those beautiful raindrops)  Showers of blessings, for sure! I love it! The boots and scarves were definitely on. I live in Southern California so the weather has been a little bipolar.  It’s hot one day and then it’s cold and vice versa. Praying and crossing my fingers that this cool weather will stay for the next few months. Haha!

Well, Thankfulness. A word that spreads once November hits. In fact, people even do the “30 Days of Thankfulness” which I have nothing against but I recently saw a tweet from a friend (I can’t remember who and I tried looking but can’t find it)  that Thankfulness should’t just be thought of during November, but should be seen as a  form of worshipping the Lord, which is so true. If we aren’t careful, we use the month of “November” as the only time we “Give Thanks.”

Although it’s great that the majority of America is giving thanks, the majority are still UNTHANKFUL… WAIT, WHAT? You’re probably saying or thinking, “That makes NO SENSE.” And you’re absolutely right. It doesn’t make sense how we set aside and observe a day to maybe get off work and celebrate with family and friends TO GIVE THANKS, and forget about doing exactly that until the next 365 days.

I posted this on my Instagram a few days ago:


If we can TRAIN ourselves to find something to be thankful for, for 30 days… then we can most definitely find something to be thankful for everyday… But that’s easier said than done, Judy – You’re probably thinking.

Once again, I agree… but that’s why it takes training and discipline. Just as many train to be fit or train to be better at something they do, WE CAN ALL TRAIN OURSELVES to find the blessing in everything. You may not have the talents like others, but you can be FAITHFUL – faithful in giving thanks.

So why is the title of this post, “UNTHANKFULNESS” instead of “THANKFULNESS?”

2 Timothy 3:1-3 says,

1 This know also, that in the last days perilous times shall come. 2 For men shall be lovers of their own selves, covetous, boasters, proud, blasphemers, disobedient to parents, unthankful, unholy, 3 Without natural affection, trucebreakers, false accusers, incontinent, fierce, despisers of those that are good,

I remember when I was in college, the Vice President at that time, Dr. John Goetsch preached a powerful message on this text right before everyone dispersed to their respective areas for the Thanksgiving Break. It’s been years and unfortunately I didn’t have the time to look for my notes but that word (unthankful) would best describe many of us.


    1. Difficult/Unexpected Trials

I mean when was the last time that we ACTUALLY thanked God for the problems in our lives? Sure, your problem or trial may be BIGGER than someone else’s, but doesn’t the Bible say, In every thing give thanks: for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus concerning you. (1 Thessalonians 5:18)?

Last time I checked, those words are still there. It’s so easy to THANK GOD during the good and easy times but so difficult to THANK GOD during the bad and hard times.

    2. Bitterness

You’ve been miserable for a.long.time. and you refuse to accept the fact that it’s because you haven’t forgiven “that someone” that hurt or offended you many.years. ago. I’ve been there and no doubt, it’s not a happy place to be… and the sad thing is, it’s not a HAPPY PLACE to be, because of US!


Colossians 3:13  says, “Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.

How do you forgive when it seems like what was done to you is so unforgivable?

Well, Christ forgave you. So why shouldn’t you forgive the one who has offended you?


And yet, He still CHOOSES to forgive us, simply because He loves us.

“But I don’t love the one who hurt me?”

But do you love God? Because the Bible says, “If ye love me, keep my commandments.


Ephesians 4:32 HAS A COMMANDMENT: (actually a few commandments)

And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.

   3. Unbelief in God

Psalm 14:1 says, “The fool hath said in his heart, There is no God.

I’ve heard that it’s easier to believe there is God than to believe that there isn’t God.

For me to give you all the reasons I BELIEVE THERE IS GOD would take up a lot of time so if you want to know what I believe, just read the KJV Bible. 🙂

I always wondered who people thank during Thanksgiving if they don’t believe in God.

Sure, many will say that they are THANKFUL for family and/or friends, material things, etc… but really, there wouldn’t be those family/friends, material blessing if it weren’t for God. I mean, would the Devil really “bless” you with those?

Most Definitely NOT!

So, I know during Thanksgiving, most if not all, will probably go around (before eating; at least my family does) and mention something or some things that they are thankful for. But let us not forget that after Thanksgiving comes BLACK FRIDAY and people get so crazy and hurt, stomp, and maybe even kill others JUST TO GET SOMETHING because they aren’t CONTENT or THANKFUL, therefore, UNTHANKFUL for what they ALREADY HAVE.

Don’t misunderstand me. I love Black Friday but I’m not CRAZY enough to stomp on someone or get into a fight with someone simply because we want the same item.

It’s ridiculous, really.

One day, people are so kind and mentioning and boasting about all the things they are thankful for and the very next day,


They’re trampling, stomping, or fighting someone simply because THEIR THANKFULNESS was only for a day (some even less than a day) and have already forgotten to be thankful…

It’s so sad…

So if you don’t want to fall in the category of someone who is UNTHANKFUL, here are ways to help you:


1)  IN EVERYTHING GIVE THANKS – Train yourself to be thankful, especially during the difficult and unexpected moments.

2) FORGIVE EVEN AS CHRIST FORGAVE YOU… AND CONTINUES TO FORGIVE YOU (IF YOU ASK HIM) – Christ is my model because He is perfect and more so, because He loves me so much that He WILLINGLY died for me. He loves you just as much.

3) REMEMBER THAT EVERYTHING AND EVERYONE THAT YOU HAVE IN YOUR LIFE IS A GIFT FROM GOD. – What you have doesn’t belong to you, including your children. You are merely borrowing from the Lord.

“Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” (James 1:17)

Hope you found something on this post to be helpful.




By God’s Grace,


Liking, Loving, Laboring – #1


Many of us have heard this saying; we have either been at the receiving end, giving end, or just the hearing end of this saying. Personally, I have said these words jokingly to either my husband or a friend before. Although some may not take these words offensive, there are always those who take everything, LITERALLY.


Being a mother has its perks. Some days are just my absolute favorites and other days are just too much for me to handle. I have 2 girls and they keep me on my toes or on my bed… (I prefer the latter)

In general, females are HIGH MAINTENANCE. I mean, just think about the time it takes for us to get ready.

A. Long. Time.

Ok, maybe not ALL THE TIME. But the majority of women spend some time doing their hair and putting make-up on. On most days, I wish I had a magic wand to just wave and make myself ready in “no time”.


Many people “enter” parenthood the same way.They read all the books on what to do and what not to do as a parent and expect their child to be just like every other child or like the good ol’ child that was described in some book they read. But reality is we can’t just wave a magic wand and !BOOM! our child is the child we’ve always dreamed of having.

You can read all the books about Parenting and still have a rebellious, disobedient child. It’s not about what you read but about applying what you read.

As a mom, I have to constantly remind myself of 3 things:

  1. I don’t have to like everything that my child does.
  2. I still have to love my child even when they’re unlovable.
  3. Parenting takes work. I labor DAILY, without pay – at least monetary pay… but the rewards of good and consistent parenting will pay off in dividends. (Money can’t even compare!)



As humans, we naturally have likes and dislikes.

I dislike it when my eldest, LG, “bothers” me when I’m doing something. I’m the type of person that has high expectations and expects most, if not all people to have common sense.

Ridiculous, right? Absolutely! I cannot expect something like that just because I have it. 

It’s unfortunate because sometimes, I forget that my daughter is only 2 1/2 years old. All her little mind knows and wants is attention – Especially Mommy’s attention. 

She just desires Mommy to get off her phone and pay attention to the “imaginary” bed that she made out of legos for her toy princess. 

She longs to hear Mommy say, “Wow, Great Job, Baby!” after putting away her toys or sharing with her sister.

She assumes that Mommy is watching her organize her princesses by color and anticipates being praised for the great work and time she put into that organization.

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I could write a list of things that I don’t like my daughters doing, but you probably already get the point. If you were to make a list, we would probably have some similarities.

My point is, as a parent you will always find something that you don’t like about your child’s doings, but we shouldn’t dwell on those dislikes. Rather, we should teach them WHY we don’t like certain things or doings and PRAISE them for the things we do like.

That’s why, we as parents need to set a good example. 

Children get enough negativity maybe at school, through television, or through social media. They don’t need more of it AT HOME!

You can decide beginning today…

Instead of seeing the things you don’t like about your child or what he/she does, see the LIKES. You don’t have to like everything he does, but that doesn’t mean that there aren’t things to like. 



Love doesn’t come naturally to us. We have to work at it. In fact, I see “UNLOVING” all the time – with myself, with my children, with neighbors, with family members, with church members (sad to say), etc.

I wrote a blog entitled, Loving the Unlovable a while back. Every one of us has encountered someone who was unlovable. But we’ve forgotten that BEHIND EVERY UNLOVABLE PERSON is someone who just longs to be loved, cared for, appreciated. I’ve been that kind of person. Not that I had unloving family members; I knew and I know that I have loving parents and siblings, uncles and aunts, cousins; but we just weren’t the type to “SHOW” our love.

We rarely said the 3 important words – I LOVE YOU. In fact, the FIRST time I remember saying those words to my dad was when I was a Freshmen in college!!! (Crazy, right?!?) Now, I say it every time I talk to him, especially since he lives in Michigan.

One way I can explain UNLOVABLE is through my daughter’s actions. This little girl is so special to me! After all, she made me a “Mom!” Over the past two years, I have come to realize the kind of personality she has. She is one of the sweetest little kids I know, maybe not to strangers, but definitely to me and those closest to her. She has such a sensitive and tender heart all wrapped up with a spunky attitude. However, there have been times when she has not been loving, especially to her little sister.

See for yourself…

She has pushed her little sister simply because AJ wanted to play with the same toys she was playing with.

She has “dissed” people who were kind and wanted to just say, “Hi.” (WHY? I’m still trying to figure that out)

She has done “the crying act” to try to get what she wanted. (Doesn’t work with me; maybe with Daddy, but definitely not with me!)

Not surprisingly, but she has officially marked the word “NO” as her favorite word. (I am teaching her that it’s ok to say “No” sometimes… but do so by saying, “No, thank you.”

I’m sure this list could get longer as she gets older, but one thing does not change – the fact that I love her. Regardless of what she does, even if I don’t like it, should not make me LOVE HER LESS. In fact, it should make me LOVE HER MORE. Why? Because, Love covers the multitude of sins.


Jesus demonstrated his love for us on the cross, WHILE WE WERE SINNERS. (Romans 5:8)

—> He didn’t wait for us to change into a better person.

—> He didn’t wait for us to ask for forgiveness.

“His love for us is so immense that even in our darkest and most sinful state, His love will never lessen or cease. ” – JudyLynn  Cabal

You can decide beginning today…

I will love my child even when he is unlovable. I will love him simply because God loves me. There will be many times when your child will be unlovable, but those are the times that he needs the most loving.



WORK. A norm in almost everyone’s life. “

One who does not work cannot eat.”

There’s a truth to that quote. Literally, if you don’t put in some work, you can’t eat. (Sadly, here in America people who don’t work are getting access to a lot of “FREE” stuff and the ones that are negatively affected are the ones working —> still boggles my mind!) 

Another interpretation, if you don’t work, you will not be able to enjoy the “fruits” of your labor.

Can you imagine giving birth to a child and then just leaving him to himself?

Wow! What if that child was supposed to be the next President of the United States, or the next Best Singer, or the next Preacher, etc.?

People CHOSE to make irresponsible decisions like the one mentioned because they don’t want to take responsibility – responsibility for raising, feeding, clothing, teaching, mentoring, and loving that child. 

I can’t imagine myself doing that but sadly it does happen –  All. The. Time.

I had a greater respect for my parents once I became a parent. Parenting is a lot of work and it’s HARD WORK. Sure, there are times when it seems like a “breeze” but other times, it seems like the day can’t go any slower.

As parents, we have to keep in mind that we have little humans depending on us FOR EVERYTHING – food, clothes, baths, rides to school, work, or the mall, and eventually, a CAR! (for toddlers – candy, prizes, rewards, etc) Those are the tangible things.

The intangible things – life’s lessons, wisdom, instruction, guidance, praise, happiness, joy, etc.

The Bible says in Proverbs 22:6 – “Train up a child in the way he should go, and when he is old, he will not depart from it.”


No doubt, I haven’t been at this parenting thing for long but I’ve seen enough and different kinds of parenting styles that I would like to emulate but also some kinds I plan to avoid.

You can decide beginning today…

I will stick with it. I will be consistent. I will discipline if you have to.

Be their friend but more importantly, be their parent. 


No doubt, you will make mistakes, but who doesn’t? 

There is NO PERFECT PARENT. You learn along the way and while learning, don’t forget to labor.


By God’s Grace,


Why Communication is Important in a Marriage


Websters 1828 Dictionary defines COMMUNICATION as 1. The act of imparting, conferring, or delivering, from one to another; as the communication of knowledge, opinions or facts. 2. Intercourse by words, letters or messages; interchange of thoughts or opinions, by conference or other means.

I am 26 years old and in the last 8 years, I have found COMMUNICATION to be VITAL. I understand and am continuing to understand how important it is in every aspect of life.  One of the most important areas is in MARRIAGE.

A couple doesn’t need to be married for long to realize that COMMUNICATION is a key aspect to an effective and continuing relationship.  J.Cabal

COMMUNICATION can come in different forms. I am currently re-reading the book, “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman. Since I started, I have discovered that what I thought was my husband’s main love language wasn’t actually his main love language!

You see, different people communicate in different ways.

(Taken from “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman)

1) Some communicate through time spent together

2) Some through giving gifts

3) Some through touch

4) Some through words of affirmation/encouraging words

5) Some through acts of service.  

“Failing to know how your spouse communicates best is failing to understand what your spouse is communicating!”  J. Cabal

If I am the type of person that communicates best by wanting to spend time with my husband and my husband communicates best by words of affirmation, He should not be communicating to me with words of affirmation, simply because I won’t understand what he wants me to understand.  It’s like trying to speak Chinese to someone who is American. It’s just not the same…

“Speaking to your spouse in YOUR BEST WAY of communication will not necessarily guarantee joyful acceptance of it because it may not be his/her BEST FORM of communication. J.Cabal

There were several times in my marriage when I “expected” my husband to do or say something, but I had failed to communicate that to him…so when that time came when I wanted or expected something to be done (and it wasn’t), I was already frustrated and angry that it had not been done, or sometimes, not done the way I wanted.

So, you may be at the point in your life where you’ve been wondering why your spouse CANNOT get your hints, CANNOT understand you (no matter how S L OOOOOOOO W you say something or how many times you repeat it), and you are about fed-up with your relationship. Nothing seems to work.


  1. Set aside a time daily or weekly for you and your spouse to tell each other what you would like for them to do this week. (See what we use below!)
  2. If last minute things come up and “ruin” the plans you had already set, it’s a-ok! Don’t let it ruin the rest of the week.
  3. Once something you wanted to get accomplished gets accomplished, thank and praise your spouse. (Give him a kiss, even!)
  4. At the end of the week, look back on what could’ve been better communicated or worked on from both sides.

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“A marriage that is to continue growing in love, grace, and forgiveness must involve faithful and effective communication from both parties.” – JudyLynn Cabal

 Please let me know in the comments if you’ve read the book, “The Five Love Languages” and what your love language is. 



LIFE. IT CONSISTS OF A BEGINNING, MIDDLE, AND END.  The only two that are evident are the beginning (birth) and the end (death).  We don’t really know when the middle of our life is, simply because we don’t know when the end of our life is. In addition, BEFORE YOU WERE EVEN BORN, YOU WERE ALREADY THOUGHT OF AND ON SOMEONE’S MIND.

WEBSTER’S 1828 DICTIONARY DEFINES “PRELUDE” as Something introductory or that shows what is to follow; something preceding which bears some relation or resemblance to that which is to follow.

Can you believe that your whole life is already planned out by an ALMIGHTY, ALL-POWERFUL, ALL-KNOWING GOD? The sad thing is that PLANS DON’T ALWAYS WORK OUT, do they? Especially, when we choose to do things for our own selfish pride or selfish ambitions.

You see, there are two perspectives in life – the world’s & God’s.

The World’s perspective says, “Do whatever pleases, satisfies, or benefits you.”

I’m not against doing things to please yourself. Hey, sometimes you have to have your “ME” time to stay sane. What is meant by world’s perspective is when EVERYTHING that you do is centered around pleasing , satisfying, or benefiting you.

On the contrary, God’s perspective is, “Do what pleases or satisfies Him and benefits the Kingdom of Heaven.”  If you really think about it, God doesn’t owe us anything. We owe Him everything. He sacrificed ALL HE HAD just so we could have what we need, and that “need” is a Saviour. God paid a debt He didn’t owe and we had a debt we couldn’t pay. All the things that we have are from God, especially LIFE.

Births and Deaths can have one thing in common – the celebrating of a life.

April 20, 2014 – BabyGirl LG is Born

When a baby is born, joy is experienced, no matter how much pain was involved. I remember giving birth to my first-born daughter. Those contractions were killer! (Can I get a witness?!?) I was already in so much pain at 3cm. I can still remember my husband telling me that HE NEVER WANTED ME TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN. Well, unfortunately for him,  9 months after LG was born, we found out we were expecting our second child! (Hallelujah for me & fear for my husband… haha! JK!)  Don’t worry, he regrets saying that and is VERY GRATEFUL FOR OUR SECOND DAUGHTER, AJ. Only a mother who has given birth can testify that the pain felt before giving birth was nothing compared to the joy when that baby came out and was placed in her arms, as she cried tears of joy – simply because a NEW LIFE was being celebrated.

October 22, 2015 – BabyGirl AJ is Born

When someone dies, a memorial service is usually held. Why? To remember the life that they lived. Sure, it may not have been a “PERFECT” life (which does not even exist) and sure, the person that died may have been a criminal but to some, they were loved, especially by family members and close friends. (Please don’t misunderstand me for thinking that it’s OK to be a criminal – OBVIOUSLY, it’s not!)  But can you see where I’m going with this?

When someone is born or dies, something is celebrated.

Now, there is only one person that knows when someone will be born and when someone will die. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21 KJV).  Just as God spoke the world into existence, God decides when and how a person is born and when and how a person dies.

If we just engraved into our hearts and minds that OUR LIVES have a specific BLUEPRINT and that blueprint was designed by the Almighty Creator and that EACH LIFE was made for a SPECIFIC PURPOSE, then maybe we would choose to be WISER in how we lived our lives.

Instead of living for ourselves, we would live for God and others. After all, the two greatest commandments are to love God with all our hearts, soul, and mind and to love our neighbours (others) as ourselves. (Matthew 22:37-39 KJV)

If you are reading this, you may be at a point in your life where YOUR LIFE seems like it has no meaning; FRIEND, God made you for a purpose but it is up to you to find that purpose. (Stick around as we will be talking about PURPOSE in the next few weeks) But DON’T GIVE UP! Life may be difficult right now but that is what life is made up of. Without the difficulties of life, you wouldn’t be the strong person that you are or could be.

You may be reading this and thinking that you’ve been doing a good job with how you’ve lived your life and I would like to commend you! I’m sure it wasn’t easy to get to where you are right now but you have made good and wise decisions and you are reaping the benefits of that so KEEP IT UP but REMEMBER, don’t settle for where you are now – STRIVE TO BE BETTER AND DO BETTER!

Remember, The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb!

You may be reading this and may not be either of two people that were described but rather someone who DOESN’T EVEN BELIEVE IN GOD. Many come to that point where they question God’s existence or goodness because of a tragedy that has occurred in their life. You have grown to be bitter towards God and life. But FRIEND, YOU CANNOT BE MAD AT SOMEONE THAT YOU BELIEVE DOES NOT EXIST. Remember that no matter how you feel about God, He still loves you. He loved you so much that HE SACRIFICED AND ALLOWED HIS ONLY SON to die for you… Yes, you! There is nothing that you could do or say that would change His love for you. defined PRELUDE as the following:

“Think of it as “welcoming music.”  By no means bland, this is harmonious music with a calm, often pastoral air to it, designed to set a tone of relaxed composure, alleviate the stresses of traveling, and – added bonus! – it lets the guests know by ear where the ceremony will be located.  It usually starts between 15 and 30 minutes before the ceremony begins.”

No doubt, when you were born, there was some kind of celebration. But before anyone on this earth saw you, SOMEONE ALREADY KNEW YOU (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV). The last 15-30 minutes before you were born, God already had some music playing as if to prepare for your GRAND ENTRANCE.

So, if He knew you before you were even born, don’t you think it would be wise to keep your life in His Hands? After all, he knows what’s best for you!


LG @ 2 and 1/2 years young!

AJ @ 1 Year Young!

“We are designed by God for accomplishment, engineered for success, 

and endowed with seeds of greatness.”

– Christine Caine

I can’t see all that my two girls will accomplish, succeed, & be great in, but GOD DOES!

I would rather have Him steer the wheel for their lives than I do so and mess it up by my versions of ACCOMPLISHMENT, SUCCESS, and GREATNESS. They may not be bad, but for sure, they won’t be what God purposed for their lives.


***Featured Photo by Jordan Mcqueen on Unsplash!

Loving the Unlovable

There he was, disrupting the class, AGAIN!!! I usually have three warnings before I give a student demerits, but Mark had long exceeded the warnings. I was pregnant at this time with my first child and my emotions, hormones, (you name it!) were all over the place. I became easily fed up with any and every thing that annoyed me.

I even came to the point where I cried (IN FRONT OF MY WHOLE CLASS)! Embarrassing? At that moment, I could care less. You know how sometimes you can use “crying” as a tool for someone to “feel” sorry for you? Well, I can’t remember if that was my goal, but I can remember the whole class being so quiet, as if you could hear each child’s heartbeat.

At this time, Mark had stopped misbehaving, but it was too late; he had already pushed every single button I had. To top it off, it wasn’t even 12PM yet! 😦

This was the scenario ALMOST EVERY DAY OF THAT SCHOOL YEAR. How did I survive?


GRACE – specifically, GOD’S GRACE!

I was privileged to have a restroom in my classroom and many, if not all times, it was VERY CONVENIENT for me (Don’t Forget, I was pregnant)! Every time, I went into this restroom, I saw a picture frame with some kind of background (I can’t remember) and on that background was a quote that went something like this, “The best time to love someone is when they are UNLOVABLE.” Those were not the exact words but somewhere in that realm. I remember seeing that, especially on the days that Mark was unlovable and think to myself, “How am I supposed to love this student? He’s so disruptive and disrespectful!” My most common prayer that school year was probably, “God help me and please give me grace.”

Now, Mark came from a broken home. He lived with his dad and older brother; his mom was out of the picture. I tried to understand his background and the lack of a mother-figure in his life but some days were tougher than others. During those tougher days, I wouldn’t care what background he came from; I wouldn’t care about the quote I saw in the restroom; I just didn’t care….

NOW imagine if GOD didn’t care. If He didn’t care, I wouldn’t be here; you wouldn’t be here; no one would be here. There would be no purpose for any of our lives – if God simply DID NOT CARE.

It’s easy in situations like the one i just described to NOT CARE but that mentality can destroy a person, a family, a church, a company, a city, a state, a country, and  eventually our world.

Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines care as, “To be anxious or solicitous; to be concerned about.” To be concerned about “something” means that that “something” is of great importance.

There I was thinking, “Well, he’s not that important to me.” Then God comes along and says to me, “Well, he’s important to me; and whatever is important to me should be important to you.” OUCH! Conviction hit strong!


Now, there are a few meanings we can get from this “I don’t care” mentality.

  1. When someone says “I don’t care”, people tend to think the following:

a) That was rude. (A lot says about us by what we say, but more so, HOW we say things) I think it’s quite weird and difficult to say, “I don’t care”  joyfully. I didn’t say it was impossible. It’s definitely possible. But that concept just doesn’t go together. May we be careful HOW we say things.

b) Fine, if you don’t care, neither should I. (What we think, do, or say can be contagious) What we need to keep in mind is, “Is what we’re spreading positive or negative?” “Is what we’re spreading helping or hurting others?” If I say, “I don’t care, the tendency is the other person will probably think the same towards me.

c) Who cares about you, anyways?!? (Usually in a moment of being hurt or offended, we become defensive) We respond in an unthoughtful way. We say things that we don’t really mean. We end up regretting what we said, did, or thought towards another.

OK. So you’re probably thinking what happened to Mark. 

Well, we got through the school year. It was a tough one but we managed. I noticed that whenever I responded to Mark’s misbehavior or disrespect towards me or his classmates in a soft, gentle but firm and loving manner, he responded positively. It was as if this little 2nd Grader was given hope again – hope that he could be better; hope that he could be liked; hope that could overcome the obstacles that were in his life.

I see Mark often. He’s still in school  (as a 5TH GRADER NOW!!)  and still difficult to deal with, at least from what I’ve heard from other teachers…

I thought after the school year was finished that Mark would hate me, simply because of the many times I corrected him, I gave him demerits and detentions, I had conferences with his dad, and he even got sent to the Principal’s office and almost got expelled!!!

But I look at him now and thank God that he’s still in school. I see a future man who God will use to accomplish great things for Him. The thought seems really far-fetched to me and maybe even to his current teachers but it’s amazing what God will do with someone like Mark!

So whether you’re a teacher who has a student like Mark, a parent who has a difficult child, an employer with a disrespectful employee or vice versa, or maybe even a “Mark”, here’s something to take with you:

TIMELESS TRUTH: “True love is when you are completely forgiving to someone who has been completely unloving.” -JudyLynn

John 13:34-35

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

1 John 4:7

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

1 John 4:11

Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

If we can’t forgive those who have been unlovable, then how do we expect God to forgive us?



Comment below if you have ever experienced having to deal with an unlovable person and what you did.


The Greatest Love of All

L o v e.

A word used so much but not shown enough. As a teenager who started attending church, I used to think everyone (Christians & Non-Christians) knew John 3:16 but the more I went through life, I was surprised to hear that knowledge of this verse was not as common as I had thought.

To save you some time, John 3:16 (KJV) says,

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

When I say the word, “LOVE” what comes to your mind?

  • Your significant other
  • Your spouse
  • Your children
  • A best friend
  • Giving to others (materially, financially)
  • Receiving from others (materially, financially)
  • Time
  • Sex
  • God

As you can see from this list, I didn’t put “God” at the top of the list because it’s not as common for God to come to mind FIRST. Many think of their significant other, whether it’s a husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend.

Why? People think of someone or something that can be seen, touched, or felt. Because He is a spirit, God cannot be touched, seen, or felt physically. (John 4:24a; John 1:18).

BUT, that doesn’t mean that God is not love!

Today, we will talk about the Greatest LOVE that anyone can ever have.

  1. God so loved the world…

A STRONG STATEMENT & FACT. God didn’t just love the world, He SO loved the world. He loved the world so much that He was compelled to do something – He gave!

    2.   That he gave his only begotten Son…

Christmas is just around the corner! In fact, TODAY is the official start of Autumn or Fall! This is my favorite time of the year (Sweater-Weather Time) and then after Fall, it’ll be Christmas Time! (Don’t judge me for playing my Christmas Playlist already!) It will be here before you know it! But during Christmas, GIVING is the norm! Parents break their banks just to get their children gifts (my husband already got my first daughter one of her presents, tsk-tsk), spouses go a “little” over their budget to get those special gifts for him/her, grandparents get their grandchildren gifts that they probably will only use for a week and won’t even care about after that, (while the parents are thinking, “Can we just have $$$ instead? LOL!) and so on! I will have a whole blog about Christmas-Time when it’s here but for now, let’s get back to #2!

Because God loved the world so much, he gave. Well, what did he give? He gave His Son, Jesus. To do what? To die on the cross with the sins of the world “placed” upon His back. Well, what does that have to do with me? My friend, it has EVERYTHING TO DO WITH YOU.  I often tell children, if you were the only person in this world, God would have still sent his Son to die for you because that’s how much He loved you!

If you’re a parent, can you imagine having your son (or daughter) die for the sins of             E V E R  Y O N E- your enemies & people that haven’t even been born yet, not knowing what kind of people they weree going to turn out to be? I HAVE NEVER MET A PARENT who said to me, “Yeah, sure, I’ll let my child die for the sins of everyone!” No, being the human beings that we are, we would’ve responded with, “Are you CUH-RAZY?!? You are out of your mind!”


He loved you so much that he sacrificed his Son and some might even consider him crazy! Was God out of his mind? In my opinion, YES. But not in the way you’re thinking. Our minds can only comprehend so much. When God allowed HIS ONLY SON to die for the world – past, present, & future, He had YOU in MIND & having you in mind was more important than having His Son alive at that moment. God hates sin so much that there needed to be a payment for it and that was death (Romans 6:23a) – and it had to be T  H  E      D  E  A  T  H      O  F     H  I  S     O  N  E     &     O  N  L  Y    S  O  N!!!

3. That whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life…

THERE IS HOPE! I believe what I believe because of THIS HOPE! If it weren’t for this HOPE, my belief would be in vain. If John 3:16 just said, “For God so loved the world”, it wouldn’t make sense, because the word “for” is a preposition, meaning that it is a connecting word – it glues a noun or pronoun into a sentence. It goes on to say, “that he gave his only begotten Son”.

Some may think, “Aww…that’s so sweet; he gave his Son.” Others may think, “Aww… that’s sad; he let his Son die?” If the verse stopped there, the hope that many Christians have right now wouldn’t be the same hope, simply because it just says (paraphrased), “God loves you so much that he gave his Son.” (Oh——kay.) I guess that’s good. People are left with room to doubt and that is not what God wanted; He wanted to assure them so the verse continues…

“that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life”

BOOM!!! There it is! God assures us of HOPE! Simply, if anyone – you, me, your mom, your dad, A N Y O N E believes in him (JESUS), they will not perish (die & go to hell) but will live in Heaven F O R E V E R with God!!!

How awesome is that?!?

Seriously, if you just simply believe in him – believe that He loves you so much that He died on the cross for YOUR SINS and CHOOSE to accept Him as your PERSONAL LORD & SAVIOUR, then you can LIVE FOREVER, in Heaven! Just as God had a choice in whether He should give His only begotten Son, YOU HAVE A CHOICE – to accept the One who died for you or to reject him.


(I came up with an acronym [I LOVE ACRONYMS] to help us remember love in another way)

 TIMELESS TRUTH: It is Letting Others’ Value be Exposed. God saw that we human beings had value and worth and chose to expose or show that by giving the nearest & dearest to Him, to die for us.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I know it was long but I sure hope that it was a help to you.

If you want to know more about accepting Jesus Christ as your Personal Lord & Savior, please contact me with your info. I would love to share to you how making that decision changed my life FOREVER & FOR GOOD!


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