4 Reasons for Taking Family Vacations

Believe it or not, the family is often attacked in our world. Instead of it becoming a priority, it becomes a burden. Everyone gets so busy making a living that they forget to actually live.

If you’re anything like me, you love Family Vacations. (I mean who doesn’t?!?)

I remember my first-ever “family vacation” was my honeymoon at Disneyworld (if that even counts).

The following year when we had our first girl, we went to Disneyland (LG was 3 months).

Next, we did a staycation and cleaned up our home and just went around  San Diego and the Zoo.

Last year, we went to Sea World because we had some free passes.

This year, we are still debating on whether we should go to Disneyland again or not. Our oldest is old enough to understand this place, which makes us pretty excited! And then we would like to explore around our hometown, San Diego (places we’ve never been to)  & go around Los Angeles.

If you can’t tell already, my husband and I don’t have extravagant lives or jobs. We are both in full-time Christian Ministry and we have been ever since we graduated college 5 years ago.

No doubt, our vacations are not “all-that” compared to others but the most important thing to us about this time is just getting away from the routine and mundane schedule of our lives.

Here are the top reasons why I believe Family Vacations are a MUST:


When was the last time you actually, truly relaxed?  Sleeping does not count! Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines relaxation as 1. The act of slackening or remitting tension; as a relaxation of the muscles, fibers or nerves; a relaxation of the whole system.

I don’t know about you but I am way overdue for a good, long massage! I don’t know how many times my husband has cracked my back or massaged my feet but definitely more than I can remember! (He’s pretty awesome!)

We all have busy lives, whether you’re a WAHM, SAHM, or Working Mom (Outside of home). If we’re honest, life does take a toll on us physically, mentally, and spiritually, which is why we need some time dedicated to just relaxing. This means that we shouldn’t even think about work, chores around the house, or future projects. We should focus on relaxing our bodies and minds so that we may recover from the past year’s or years’ worth of work.


To recuperate means to recover or regain. Believe it or not, working makes you lose some things. You lose time (time-wasted and time-used), which could mean time you could’ve had with your spouse or your children. You have probably lost hair and maybe some brain cells from all the stress you’ve had to deal with. 😬😂

Getting away with your family might not get that time that was wasted or used, back, but you can definitely make it up by doing fun, memorable things. No matter how long your vacation may be, it should always be a time that the whole family looks forward to.


To Energize means 1) To give strength or force to; to give active vigor to.

We all have been energized throughout the year. We could’ve taken naps, slept in on some days, or slept early. Doing these things give us energy to go on for the next day or few days.

To Re-energize means more than just taking naps, sleeping in, or sleeping early. It means to fully devote yourself to a certain amount of time or days to just get your strength back & many times, all it takes is a few days of doing absolutely nothing related to your occupation.

In order to properly function, we need enough rest and strength. When we have these, we will be ready for the next round of work, chores, and responsibilities.


Refresh is defined as the following: To give new strength to; to invigorate; to relieve after fatigue; as, to refresh the body. (Exodus 23:12)

Being around the same people all the time and doing the same things all the time can sometimes cause us to be complacent. Have you ever gone out with your family and thought or even prayed that you wouldn’t see anyone you knew?!? Yeah, I’m totally guilty!

I never used to be like this but as my family grew, I’ve learned to cherish every moment with them and sometimes, that means sacrificing time with my & my husband’s friends. We’ve had to say, “NO” on multiple occasions whenever we were asked to go out, mainly because we wanted to just have family time. There’s just something awesome about spending time with family.

Would you believe it that even Jesus rested; not because he was tired but so he could show forth an example for us to follow.

He rested after 6 days of creating the beautiful world we live in. (Genesis 2)

He napped after He boarded a ship with His disciples, but was woken up after a raging storm came their way and frightened the disciples. (Luke 8)

Rest is needed in order to have new strength or be refreshed for what lies ahead of you.

“RESTING is not the same as LAZINESS.” J.Cabal

Although Jesus rested, you’ll find that even right after a nap, he went straight into doing miracles and healing people; in other words, He was working!

If you haven’t taken family vacations, I urge you to do so! They aren’t just for memory-making moments, but also for your health.

It is difficult to function with little or no sleep; imagine trying to take on a whole year without a designated time for just rest? WE WOULD LOSE OUR MINDS!

So, take a family vacation, whether it’s with just your spouse or with your spouse and children!

Your mind, body, and soul need to be refreshed!

Believe me, you need it & you deserve it!






5 Phrases Your Child Says & What They Mean

If you didn’t already know, I have two daughters; one who will be three in April and the other who turned one last year in October. Lately, I’ve been thinking about Words and the importance of them.

As a parent, we could either use our words wisely or foolishly.

“Our words can be helpful or hurtful.”

I have been observing my first-born and have noticed several phrases that she says and if I’m not careful, they’re just sounds rather than words with meaning.

If you can relate to me, I’d appreciate it if you would share this post to remind other moms & dads the importance of our words.







They need AND want your attention. Children need AND want to know that they are being noticed; that someone is watching them and realizing their accomplishments or milestones in life. I am so guilty of being on my phone, sometimes around my children; (whether it be for work or to be on social media). While those aren’t necessarily bad, I wonder what my toddler thinks when I’m on my phone rather than pay attention to her? Moms, let’s do better and be better for them. The phone can wait… but the time with your child cannot be taken back.




I didn’t have my mom around, growing up. I left the Philippines to come to the US, along with my dad & older sibling when I was 5 and we left my mom and two younger siblings. I didn’t get to say the words, “I did it, Mommy” when I got an award or won something at school. My dad was in the Military and most of my elementary to Jr. high years, my dad wasn’t around either.  So I didn’t get the “Praise” or “Congratulations” that I longed for…

Now, that I have my own family and am raising my two wonderful daughters with my amazing husband, I am careful to constantly give praise, encouragement, or congratulations when I hear the words, “I did it, Mommy!” However, I know that there is always room for improvement.

Children long for you to praise them; to let them know that YOU SAW the great deed that they did. Whether it be obeying you, helping you do chores around the house, or sharing with others, children want to hear something from you when they do or say something right. They want affirmation. I read online recently that “the lack of both parents’ affirmation leaves some children emotionally crippled.”

While I was emotionally effected that I didn’t have both of parents’ affirmation, I am so thankful that my Almighty God did not forsake me. (Psalm 27:10) And it is only by God’s grace that I am what I am today.

Not only do children want you to praise them, but they want you to sincerely mean what you say. They`want to see on your face that whatever comes out of your mouth is genuine, not two-faced or double-standard, which leads us to our next phrase…




           Whether you like it or not or whether you believe it or not, you are your child’s role model. They look up to you for most, if not everything. Whatever you say, whatever you like, whatever you listen to or watch, they want to have a part in that. They truly believe in their heart that their mom and dad are the best people in the world (unless of course, they are hypocrites – they say one thing but do the exact opposite). In the case of hypocrisy… well, that’s for another blog post!

Children are smarter than we think. They catch on to the littlest things we do or say. Not only do you make it difficult for your child to respect you, but it becomes difficult on the family as a whole when the parents act differently from what they say.

We are not against Technology. In fact, my husband and I love it and are so appreciative of it! My daughter uses our iPad to watch videos on Youtube. If there is a certain song or type of song or video that comes on and Mommy & Daddy don’t approve of it, she knows to change it… Sometimes, she needs to be reminded but if you start training your children early enough, they’ll catch on. If you have children that are already in school and you feel like it’s too late to start training them, then friend, let me tell you that it’s not. There’s always hope. It probably won’t be as easy as if you had done it sooner but it’s NEVER too late to start. AND DON’T FORGET TO BE CONSISTENT and don’t let them get away with anything!



       Kids will be kids. They do foolish things at times but that isn’t a reason for us parents to love them less. In fact, it’s for us to show them more love. When a child says, “I’m sorry,” they are demonstrating humility. They understand that what they did wasn’t acceptable. However, it should’t stop there. As parents, we should ask them (don’t tell them, unless they really, absolutely do not know why) if they know what they did wrong. After asking them, we should tell them that when they do something wrong, it doesn’t just affect them. It hurts Mommy, Daddy, Jesus, and whomever they hurt or offended.

Remember, no one is perfect. You and I both make mistakes. So let’s stop expecting our children to be something they aren’t. They are still learning just as we are as parents. No one has this “Parenting Thing” down and neither is any child an expert at being a child. In addition, each child is different. God made each person unique. Some learn quicker, others slower; Some need more attention than others. So let’s not expect or treat them like they’re perfect, because that will only make things worse.





One thing I love and sometimes “dislike” (just because I don’t want use the word, hate) about children is their dependency on us as parents. When I first became a mom in 2014, I loved that my child depended on me to carry her, comfort her, and adore her but there were times when I was so tired that all I wanted to do was sleep but she wanted to eat, play, get her diaper changed, or be carried.

As the years went by, my first-born learned to be a little less dependent on me and a little more dependent on herself. Now, she can feed herself, go to the potty (still with a little assistance getting onto the toilet), and play house with her toys. All this self-dependency comes in handy when I want to take a nap or get some chores done.

But when I hear those words, “Please help me,” my child is trying to get her message across to me that she needs assistance or maybe just a little boost (physically or mentally) to accomplish something. What I love about doing this is hearing her next words, “Thank you, Mommy!” They are dependent on you for some things but when you assist them, they learn how to appreciate you and the help you give them. You don’t have to always tell them,“When someone helps you or does something nice for you, say ‘Thank you’,  you can just show them in your everyday life and they will catch on and remember that.

There will be times when they ask for your help when you are busy; you either have to tell them to be patient and wait till Mommy /Daddy is done or stop whatever you are doing and help them. I am guilty of sometimes getting frustrated when my LG asks for help during the “wrong times” (at least in my book), but she sees that and she remembers it. It may even cause her to think that asking for help is a bad thing when it really isn’t. Then, when we ask them, “Why didn’t you ask for my help?” They are thinking to themselves, “Well, when I asked you for help last time, you were too busy” or “I thought it was wrong to ask you for help.”

So, the next time your child asks for your help, do it lovingly and joyfully.

In conclusion,

  • Our words can either HELP or HURT others.
  • Your children WANT and NEED your attention; make sure you are watching them and realizing their accomplishments and milestones in life.
  • A word of encouragement can go a long way; Build your children up; don’t tear them down.
  • Children are smarter than we think or care to admit. They learn a lot more by what they SEE, rather than what they HEAR. Be an example that they would be proud to follow.
  • Kids will be kids. They will do foolish things which is why God has placed PARENTS in their lives – to teach and train them.
  • The days may seem long at times but the years are short. Cherish the moments with your children. Don’t get frustrated when your children depend on you. You have the opportunity to show them the Greatest love of all, Christ’s love and how we also depend on Him as our Heavenly father.


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My first daughter, who will be three in April recently started calling me “MOM.”

When she was still a baby, my husband and I would compete and try to get her to say, “Mama” or “Dada” first. (I mean which first-time parents don’t do that, right?)

We have two daughters now and none of them had “Mama” as their first word. LG’s first word was “Dada” and AJ’s first word was “juice.” How, you may ask? I HAVE NO IDEA! Lol!

After the “Mama” stage, you anticipate when they’ll say, “Mommy” and get excited about it, but when LG started calling me, “MOM” (consistently) a few days ago, it was a different kind of feeling. I felt “sad” to witness my first-born growing up so fast right before my eyes. It wasn’t like an “unhappy-sad,” it was more like a “happy-sad/don’t-leave-me-ever” kind of feeling.

A quote I came up with last year was:


As a mom or dad, we need to keep in mind that our children don’t belong to us.

YES, you might have given birth to them;

YES, you provide for them financially;

YES, you send them to school and help them with homework or projects;

YES, you provide shelter for them;

YES, you feed them multiple times a day;

YES, you teach them how to drive and maybe even buy their first car;

YES, you might have helped a little financially for their wedding;

YES, you are the one that is there during their sad times and happy times, during their victories and losses, during their special moments…and not-so-special moments.

YES, you are their MOM OR DAD…

YES, you do the “work” of raising them…

But before you even became their mom or dad, your child(ren) were already on God’s mind.

HE is the Giver of Life.

HE is the Giver of Strength.

HE is the Giver of Finances.

HE is the Giver of Wisdom.

HE is the Giver of Children… yes, YOUR CHILDREN!

So why do we as parents hold on to our children as if they are ours?

If we just remember that we are only BORROWING them from the LORD, we might be BETTER STEWARDS OF PARENTING THEM.

Generally, parents think that they have 18 years, at least, to be with their children. After that, it’s college life and possibly meeting their future spouse and spending the rest of their lives with that spouse.

18 years. You have: 

216 Months or

939 Weeks or

6570 Days or

157680 Hours or

9,460,800 Minutes or

567,648,000 Seconds

Possibly left with your child(ren).

“The days are long but the years are short!”

So why not spend those years…




your child(ren);

rather than




As parents, we only desire the best for our children; but which best? “Our” best or “God’s” Best? Because God’s Best is so much more and better than ours. So let’s stop thinking that it is our job, duty, or responsibility to MAKE  our children what they need to be.

You see, we make that mistake. We think that God gave our children to us so we can make them into the “masterpiece” that maybe, we failed to be or our parents failed to raise us in becoming.

God gave us our children so that we can “train” and “teach” them the way that they should go…(Proverbs 22:6) not the way that we want them to go.

So remember,

  • Children are a gift FROM GOD. (Psalm 127:3)
  • We are only borrowing our children; They are not ours for keeps. (Psalm 127:4)
  • We have a limited time with them. Make the most of it! (Deuteronomy 6:7; 11:19)

I love what Jack Wellman says about this verse here.

  • Raise the children God has given you in the nurture and admonition of the LORD. (Ephesians 6:4b)
  • Our job is not to MAKE our children what we want them to be but what God has already planned for them to be. (Joshua 24:15; Genesis 18:19; Malachi 2:15; Romans 12:2; Matthew 6:33)


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Have you ever wondered why REMINDERS are vital? I sure have. I constantly need to be reminded of almost everything. I think I have short-term memory, which is why when I am asked to do something, I either need to write it down or get it done right then and there… If I don’t, I will forget about it.

Am I the only one like that? Please tell me I am not alone…

A while back, I wrote my first post for my Building Blocks of Better Parenting SeriesLiking, Loving, & Laboring. Well, today will be about Consistency.

I have an almost 3-year old toddler (LG) and a 1-year old (AJ). My LG has been growing up way too fast…She’s so imaginative and girly. She loves to pretend she is EVERY PRINCESS and that she is having tea with her friends… A few weeks ago, I was face timing my Mom who lives in Michigan and my LG comes up to me with her backpack on and says, “Bye!” I asked her where she was going and she said, “To the airport…”

I respond, “Aww…are you going to visit ‘Grandma G’ in Michigan?

She replies, “Yes, Mommy… Bye!”

I respond, “Bye, Baby. I love you!”

WOW!!!  I mean where did this girl even learn the word, “airport” from? It’s pretty awesome though!

I can’t even remember when my husband and I started teaching her to pray… but we pray before we eat and before we go to sleep and if LG & AJ are watching something on YOUTUBE Kids, we tell them to PAUSE it.

WHY? Simply, because we want them to understand the importance and seriousness of praying. 

Maybe a year ago or so, my MIL was surprised when she was babysitting LG. They were about to eat and LG already knew that she was supposed to PAUSE if she was watching or doing something… and she did. When I was told this, I knew that my husband and I were doing at least ONE THING right in this parenting journey. (Can I get an ‘AMEN’?!?)

Now, does that mean that she doesn’t need to be reminded? Of course not. Right now, we are CONSTANTLY REMINDING her to say, “Please & Thank you.” I mean, if you haven’t experienced it yet, children can be very demanding! My LG will sometimes say, “Mommy, get it!”and being the “Firm Mommy” that I’ve always wanted to be (haha), I reply, “I’m sorry, LG… what did you say?” She repeats it and I respond with, “Mommy, may you please help me get it?”

The first time she TOLD me to do something, I was like… “Uhh… I’m sorry, you don’t TELL Mommy what to do. You can ASK Mommy something…but you don’t DEMAND.”

WHY? Because as the parent, YOU are the one that should have the AUTHORITY. Of course, you don’t abuse that authority… but you use it to eventually train them to know and understand that there is a Higher Authority – God.

So for all those parents who may be wondering if you’re doing things right, if there’s anything I can say, it’s BE CONSISTENT & be consistent in teaching and training the right way. Many parents are consistent but if they’re not careful, the have the wrong consistency. Think about it like cooking… there are different foods that require certain types of consistency. Have you ever had a milkshake that had the wrong consistency – that was watery and wasn’t thick enough? I might have… and it wasn’t very desirable! (But the ones pictured below look delicious!)


“Failure to have the right consistency results in the incorrect desired product.”

As Christians, my husband and I use the Bible as our guide…and we use it to help us raise our children the right way. Does that mean that my girls are going to be perfect or “holy-holy?” Not necessarily. But the Bible does say in Proverbs 22:6

“Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is old, he will not depart from it.

I know we have a while until our kids are old enough to think for themselves and make their own decisions but the time may be here sooner than we know and it’s our duty (and privilege) to raise them in the nurture and admonition of the Lord.


“It’s not what we do once in a while that shapes our lives. It’s what we do consistently.”  Anthony Robbins
“Success is neither magical nor mysterious. Success is the natural consequence of consistently applying basic fundamentals.” Jim Rohn
“It’s not what we do once—it’s what we do once a day…day in and day out…every day that brings lasting change into our lives.” Toni Sorenson
“Consistency, constancy, and undeviating diligence to maintain Christian character are a must if the older generation is to command respect, or even a hearing, from the young.” Billy Graham

So, whether you’re the “role-model” parent, the parent that’s struggling to train your children the right way, a new parent, an “honorary” (foster) parent, or one that’s always desired to be parent but can’t have children, please remember that PARENTING is not an overnight thing. It takes work and many times, results don’t appear until years later.

It’s a continuous process and one that requires doing the same things, day in and day out.

So, Mom, Dad, STICK WITH IT and know that what you’re doing matters and is worth it.


 “Therefore, my beloved brethren, be ye stedfast, unmoveable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, forasmuch as ye know that your labour is not in vain in the Lord.” 1 Corinthians 15:58


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Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

Repetition is the key to learning, right?… or wrong?

I have found this to be a little controversial in marriage with one specific area…(at least in MY marriage). I’m sure most, if not all wives have “NAGGED” their husbands at one time or another during their marriage. I, for sure am guilty of it.

Nagging has a ripple affect just as raindrops do. You start and then you just go on and on and on… even about the really minute things!


Whether it be my husband leaving clothes on the floor, leaving a light on, forgetting to hang something up, so on and so forth; I have nagged him and I’m actually surprised he hasn’t said anything back in our almost 4 years of marriage; at least nothing that would be considered as “biting back.”  (He knows better.. Just kidding!)

He has graciously accepted my nagging.

Now, before you judge my husband, I encourage you to read this article I found recently about not being a “Butthole Wife.” The Title may sound a little funny but it was such a great reminder to me, as I am sure it will be to you.

As a former Elementary teacher, Repetition was a key method to use for a lot of things… However, we can’t treat our spouses like our Elementary students (even when they act like it).

At this moment, you may be wondering what a “CONTINUAL DROPPING” is.

No, it’s not when a bird poos continuously, or when your newborn baby has non-stop diaper changes… or when you have diarrhea! Haha!

I looked up the phrase, “Continual Dropping” in the Bible and found it twice in the Book of Proverbs.

Proverbs 27:15 -“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”

It’s been raining a lot here at our place and I actually have enjoyed it (mainly because the sun still manages to come out). Now, if it rained here for a whole week straight… I may not enjoy it as much.

If you think about it, if you’re the type of wife, fiance, or girlfriend that is constantly nagging your other half, I’m sure that relationship will be full of strife. Just as a continuous rainy day may not be as enjoyable, a contentious woman is the same – she’s not really an easy one to live or deal with.

Proverbs 19:13b – “…the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.”

I can’t even remember how many times I’ve nagged my husband, and caused contention between us… mainly for me because I set certain expectations that my husband doesn’t really obtain; not because he doesn’t want to but because our priorities for certain things may not be on the same level. For example, after coming home from a long day’s work, my husband may just want to change into comfortable clothes right away to spend time with our girls…Now, I, on the other hand, may want him to help me clean up around the house. (Of course, some of you may be thinking that we just need to communicate that to each other) But that’s not my point… my point is… his higher priority coming home from work is to spend time with our two daughters whom he hasn’t seen all day… And honestly, I would rather prefer that than arguing with him about his leaving clothes on the floor.

Lately, I’ve been thinking… how can I NOT BE a continual dropping as a wife and as a mother?

So, here are 3 ways that I have been “trying.”

  1. Thank God for giving you another day to live. I am positive those that passed away at the airport shooting in Florida weren’t anticipating it to be their last day. It really breaks my heart that someone would do something like that, with no thought of the sanctity of human life. I pray for their families. Each day that is granted to us is a blessing from God and this is a blessing that sadly, many of us forget to thank God for. But how different would our days go if we started with a grateful heart? I’m sure they wouldn’t be perfect all the time but we get to choose how we react to the tasks that we are given or the obstacles that come our way.

828dc91d8dafae6d9eb5d22ecdeb2dad2. Treat every day with your spouse and your children as if it was your last day with them…  I have been saddened to hear news of people passing away because of illnesses or dying due to car accidents, weather accidents, etc. If we just thought about each day as it were our last with those that mean the most to us, I am POSITIVE that we would live it differently and treat “THEM” differently AND better!

3. Train yourself to walk in someone else’s shoes for  “a mile.” Ok, I don’t mean that “mile” part literally but I won’t stop you if you choose to. But really, before we judge someone or treat someone a certain way, think about how their day went (at work, at school, at home…) or what trials they may be going through. How sad would it be for a husband or wife to be treated better at their workplace than at home, right? But sadly, it happens EVERY DAY! A home should be a place that people should look forward to, not dread! The next time you feel frustrated because of your spouse’s lack of _____________ (you fill in the blank)… think about how their day was at work (it may not have gone as well as you think). Or the next time you get angry at your children for doing _____________ or not doing ___________(you fill in the blanks), think about how they feel when both of their parents work… or when they’ve been cooped up in the house “ALL DAY.”


So, if you’re a wife or mother, (especially) I encourage you to

Stop Being a Continual Dropping!


BECAUSE IN THE END, You’ll realize that it was just a waste of your time.

Time that you could’ve used to enjoy picking up those clothes on the floor.

Time that you could’ve used to just “see the need, take the lead” and turn off the unused lights or hang something up.

Time that you could’ve used teaching and forgiving rather than being angry and regretting what you said later on to your little child who was innocent and just needed a little encouragement or push to do the right thing.

TIME…. that unfortunately, you cannot take back. You have already lost it and there is no re-do button.

Instead, you can just press forward with the REMINDER that



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LIFE. IT CONSISTS OF A BEGINNING, MIDDLE, AND END.  The only two that are evident are the beginning (birth) and the end (death).  We don’t really know when the middle of our life is, simply because we don’t know when the end of our life is. In addition, BEFORE YOU WERE EVEN BORN, YOU WERE ALREADY THOUGHT OF AND ON SOMEONE’S MIND.

WEBSTER’S 1828 DICTIONARY DEFINES “PRELUDE” as Something introductory or that shows what is to follow; something preceding which bears some relation or resemblance to that which is to follow.

Can you believe that your whole life is already planned out by an ALMIGHTY, ALL-POWERFUL, ALL-KNOWING GOD? The sad thing is that PLANS DON’T ALWAYS WORK OUT, do they? Especially, when we choose to do things for our own selfish pride or selfish ambitions.

You see, there are two perspectives in life – the world’s & God’s.

The World’s perspective says, “Do whatever pleases, satisfies, or benefits you.”

I’m not against doing things to please yourself. Hey, sometimes you have to have your “ME” time to stay sane. What is meant by world’s perspective is when EVERYTHING that you do is centered around pleasing , satisfying, or benefiting you.

On the contrary, God’s perspective is, “Do what pleases or satisfies Him and benefits the Kingdom of Heaven.”  If you really think about it, God doesn’t owe us anything. We owe Him everything. He sacrificed ALL HE HAD just so we could have what we need, and that “need” is a Saviour. God paid a debt He didn’t owe and we had a debt we couldn’t pay. All the things that we have are from God, especially LIFE.

Births and Deaths can have one thing in common – the celebrating of a life.

April 20, 2014 – BabyGirl LG is Born

When a baby is born, joy is experienced, no matter how much pain was involved. I remember giving birth to my first-born daughter. Those contractions were killer! (Can I get a witness?!?) I was already in so much pain at 3cm. I can still remember my husband telling me that HE NEVER WANTED ME TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN. Well, unfortunately for him,  9 months after LG was born, we found out we were expecting our second child! (Hallelujah for me & fear for my husband… haha! JK!)  Don’t worry, he regrets saying that and is VERY GRATEFUL FOR OUR SECOND DAUGHTER, AJ. Only a mother who has given birth can testify that the pain felt before giving birth was nothing compared to the joy when that baby came out and was placed in her arms, as she cried tears of joy – simply because a NEW LIFE was being celebrated.

October 22, 2015 – BabyGirl AJ is Born

When someone dies, a memorial service is usually held. Why? To remember the life that they lived. Sure, it may not have been a “PERFECT” life (which does not even exist) and sure, the person that died may have been a criminal but to some, they were loved, especially by family members and close friends. (Please don’t misunderstand me for thinking that it’s OK to be a criminal – OBVIOUSLY, it’s not!)  But can you see where I’m going with this?

When someone is born or dies, something is celebrated.

Now, there is only one person that knows when someone will be born and when someone will die. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21 KJV).  Just as God spoke the world into existence, God decides when and how a person is born and when and how a person dies.

If we just engraved into our hearts and minds that OUR LIVES have a specific BLUEPRINT and that blueprint was designed by the Almighty Creator and that EACH LIFE was made for a SPECIFIC PURPOSE, then maybe we would choose to be WISER in how we lived our lives.

Instead of living for ourselves, we would live for God and others. After all, the two greatest commandments are to love God with all our hearts, soul, and mind and to love our neighbours (others) as ourselves. (Matthew 22:37-39 KJV)

If you are reading this, you may be at a point in your life where YOUR LIFE seems like it has no meaning; FRIEND, God made you for a purpose but it is up to you to find that purpose. (Stick around as we will be talking about PURPOSE in the next few weeks) But DON’T GIVE UP! Life may be difficult right now but that is what life is made up of. Without the difficulties of life, you wouldn’t be the strong person that you are or could be.

You may be reading this and thinking that you’ve been doing a good job with how you’ve lived your life and I would like to commend you! I’m sure it wasn’t easy to get to where you are right now but you have made good and wise decisions and you are reaping the benefits of that so KEEP IT UP but REMEMBER, don’t settle for where you are now – STRIVE TO BE BETTER AND DO BETTER!

Remember, The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb!

You may be reading this and may not be either of two people that were described but rather someone who DOESN’T EVEN BELIEVE IN GOD. Many come to that point where they question God’s existence or goodness because of a tragedy that has occurred in their life. You have grown to be bitter towards God and life. But FRIEND, YOU CANNOT BE MAD AT SOMEONE THAT YOU BELIEVE DOES NOT EXIST. Remember that no matter how you feel about God, He still loves you. He loved you so much that HE SACRIFICED AND ALLOWED HIS ONLY SON to die for you… Yes, you! There is nothing that you could do or say that would change His love for you.

Collagetrio.com defined PRELUDE as the following:

“Think of it as “welcoming music.”  By no means bland, this is harmonious music with a calm, often pastoral air to it, designed to set a tone of relaxed composure, alleviate the stresses of traveling, and – added bonus! – it lets the guests know by ear where the ceremony will be located.  It usually starts between 15 and 30 minutes before the ceremony begins.”

No doubt, when you were born, there was some kind of celebration. But before anyone on this earth saw you, SOMEONE ALREADY KNEW YOU (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV). The last 15-30 minutes before you were born, God already had some music playing as if to prepare for your GRAND ENTRANCE.

So, if He knew you before you were even born, don’t you think it would be wise to keep your life in His Hands? After all, he knows what’s best for you!


LG @ 2 and 1/2 years young!

AJ @ 1 Year Young!

“We are designed by God for accomplishment, engineered for success, 

and endowed with seeds of greatness.”

– Christine Caine

I can’t see all that my two girls will accomplish, succeed, & be great in, but GOD DOES!

I would rather have Him steer the wheel for their lives than I do so and mess it up by my versions of ACCOMPLISHMENT, SUCCESS, and GREATNESS. They may not be bad, but for sure, they won’t be what God purposed for their lives.


***Featured Photo by Jordan Mcqueen on Unsplash!

Loving the Unlovable

There he was, disrupting the class, AGAIN!!! I usually have three warnings before I give a student demerits, but Mark had long exceeded the warnings. I was pregnant at this time with my first child and my emotions, hormones, (you name it!) were all over the place. I became easily fed up with any and every thing that annoyed me.

I even came to the point where I cried (IN FRONT OF MY WHOLE CLASS)! Embarrassing? At that moment, I could care less. You know how sometimes you can use “crying” as a tool for someone to “feel” sorry for you? Well, I can’t remember if that was my goal, but I can remember the whole class being so quiet, as if you could hear each child’s heartbeat.

At this time, Mark had stopped misbehaving, but it was too late; he had already pushed every single button I had. To top it off, it wasn’t even 12PM yet! 😦

This was the scenario ALMOST EVERY DAY OF THAT SCHOOL YEAR. How did I survive?


GRACE – specifically, GOD’S GRACE!

I was privileged to have a restroom in my classroom and many, if not all times, it was VERY CONVENIENT for me (Don’t Forget, I was pregnant)! Every time, I went into this restroom, I saw a picture frame with some kind of background (I can’t remember) and on that background was a quote that went something like this, “The best time to love someone is when they are UNLOVABLE.” Those were not the exact words but somewhere in that realm. I remember seeing that, especially on the days that Mark was unlovable and think to myself, “How am I supposed to love this student? He’s so disruptive and disrespectful!” My most common prayer that school year was probably, “God help me and please give me grace.”

Now, Mark came from a broken home. He lived with his dad and older brother; his mom was out of the picture. I tried to understand his background and the lack of a mother-figure in his life but some days were tougher than others. During those tougher days, I wouldn’t care what background he came from; I wouldn’t care about the quote I saw in the restroom; I just didn’t care….

NOW imagine if GOD didn’t care. If He didn’t care, I wouldn’t be here; you wouldn’t be here; no one would be here. There would be no purpose for any of our lives – if God simply DID NOT CARE.

It’s easy in situations like the one i just described to NOT CARE but that mentality can destroy a person, a family, a church, a company, a city, a state, a country, and  eventually our world.

Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines care as, “To be anxious or solicitous; to be concerned about.” To be concerned about “something” means that that “something” is of great importance.

There I was thinking, “Well, he’s not that important to me.” Then God comes along and says to me, “Well, he’s important to me; and whatever is important to me should be important to you.” OUCH! Conviction hit strong!


Now, there are a few meanings we can get from this “I don’t care” mentality.

  1. When someone says “I don’t care”, people tend to think the following:

a) That was rude. (A lot says about us by what we say, but more so, HOW we say things) I think it’s quite weird and difficult to say, “I don’t care”  joyfully. I didn’t say it was impossible. It’s definitely possible. But that concept just doesn’t go together. May we be careful HOW we say things.

b) Fine, if you don’t care, neither should I. (What we think, do, or say can be contagious) What we need to keep in mind is, “Is what we’re spreading positive or negative?” “Is what we’re spreading helping or hurting others?” If I say, “I don’t care, the tendency is the other person will probably think the same towards me.

c) Who cares about you, anyways?!? (Usually in a moment of being hurt or offended, we become defensive) We respond in an unthoughtful way. We say things that we don’t really mean. We end up regretting what we said, did, or thought towards another.

OK. So you’re probably thinking what happened to Mark. 

Well, we got through the school year. It was a tough one but we managed. I noticed that whenever I responded to Mark’s misbehavior or disrespect towards me or his classmates in a soft, gentle but firm and loving manner, he responded positively. It was as if this little 2nd Grader was given hope again – hope that he could be better; hope that he could be liked; hope that could overcome the obstacles that were in his life.

I see Mark often. He’s still in school  (as a 5TH GRADER NOW!!)  and still difficult to deal with, at least from what I’ve heard from other teachers…

I thought after the school year was finished that Mark would hate me, simply because of the many times I corrected him, I gave him demerits and detentions, I had conferences with his dad, and he even got sent to the Principal’s office and almost got expelled!!!

But I look at him now and thank God that he’s still in school. I see a future man who God will use to accomplish great things for Him. The thought seems really far-fetched to me and maybe even to his current teachers but it’s amazing what God will do with someone like Mark!

So whether you’re a teacher who has a student like Mark, a parent who has a difficult child, an employer with a disrespectful employee or vice versa, or maybe even a “Mark”, here’s something to take with you:

TIMELESS TRUTH: “True love is when you are completely forgiving to someone who has been completely unloving.” -JudyLynn

John 13:34-35

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

1 John 4:7

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

1 John 4:11

Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

If we can’t forgive those who have been unlovable, then how do we expect God to forgive us?



Comment below if you have ever experienced having to deal with an unlovable person and what you did.