4 Ways to Admire Your Family & Others (Feat. Special Guest)

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For the month of February, the Monthly Word Focus is ADMIRATION. You can read more about that here.

How often do we hear the expression, “It was an accident!” or ¬†how often have we actually been the ones to say that? I can honestly say that I’ve said it more times than I would like to admit. I understand that LIFE is not perfect nor are we perfect as humans. However, imagine how much different and better LIFE would be if we were intentional in our words and actions.

Being intentional will not always guarantee that all will be well, but if we had the mentality of DOING and SAYING things on PURPOSE, I believe we can save ourselves a lot of hurt and heartache. In this post, you will see four ways on how you can admire those closest to you. BEING INTENTIONAL and DOING THINGS INTENTIONALLY  is fundamental to doing the three others mentioned in this post.

I am excited to feature a special lady that I have admired since I started following her on Instagram. She stood out to me because of how real, honest, and loving she was to her spouse and children. And although social media does not prove EVERYTHING or how your life really is ALL THE TIME, her pictures have said a lot.

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Photo cred: https://www.instagram.com/denaejonessa

Meghan lives with her husband and their 5 kids in Minneapolis, MN. She is expecting their 6th child in April 2018 and builds her businesses at home while homeschooling the kids. The family loves low key evenings at home and dinner around the table every night of the week. Meghan‚Äôs whole life mantra is ‚Äúliving for today‚ÄĚ and shares that on her social media platforms to offer hope to others.

You can follow her on Instagram, @meghanjoytoday and her website, http://www.meghanjoyyancy.com

I sent Meghan a few questions and I have been encouraged by her answers.

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1) How are you as a wife and mom INTENTIONAL in your relationships?

When I am with certain people, I try to avoid any distractions that could be a hinderance (i.e. cell phone). When God lays on my heart to send a text to a friend, I do it. Sometimes someone will just pop into my head and heart and I’ll create a gift package to send them in the mail. I leave my schedule pretty wide open so that I have the capacity to be intentional in relationships. With my children, we try to make time for one-on-one dates so that we get to build on each relationship as a whole family as well as individually. With my husband, I’ll get that inkling like, “Meghan, just put your phone down and be WITH him, right now, in this space in time.” And I try to follow that urge and set all else aside to be with him. We also carve out most evenings to spend together after the kids go to bed.

2) How can we show INTIMACY with our children?

Letting them know that there is always a gate open to be vulnerable. Without judgment or condemnation, we want honesty and accessibility to reign. I’m continually telling the kids not to let their emotions be hindered or to ever have to feel they need to hide them from us but to open the door for that emotional intimacy to be seen and heard.

3) How do you show that you are INTERESTED in others?

I am an encourager at heart, so it’s very easy for me in that aspect. But also, often I fail at investing too much in others because I have to keep a balanced life. And so with having (almost) 6 children, a wonderful husband, homeschooling, housework, plus running multiple businesses from home, my capacity for much more is only so little. That being said, I strive for balance in all areas of life in order to show my concern and interest in others. Oftentimes, in conversations, I tell myself over and over again to just be quiet and listen. And often times, people have A LOT they want to say. And I want them to feel that someone is interested¬†and thus be able to let it out, speak it, and be heard. So really, just listening can be a very good skill to learn.

4) How can you become more INVOLVED with your spouse & children & their interests?

By carving out time to do the things THEY love to do; even if that means sacrificing my own wants and needs. When I was dating my husband, I sat down and watched every basketball game with him. He loves basketball and it makes him happy to have me enjoy that with him. And to be honest, once I wooed him, captured him, and got that ring, I don’t think I’ve watched a single game with him in our almost 10 years of marriage. So sad, I know. I’m just being real. And maybe this was just the prompt I needed to make more of an effort in that area. (At least by sitting down next to him reading my book while he watches his game.) All that being said, it’s about sacrifice and putting others first, which I’m sure most of us can improve in.

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It was a great privilege to have Meghan share her heart about how she ADMIRES or can continue to admire her spouse and children. She hit the sweet spot on answering these questions. These are great reminders to me and it would be selfish not to share them with you all! I sure hope you can get to know her even if it is just through this social media community. Please feel free to let her know how she has blessed or helped you.

Until Next Time,

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10 Ways to be a Help Meet

I am so excited for this coming March, not because we’ll have a crazy work schedule¬†but because my husband¬†and I will be celebrating 4 years of marriage!!! Crazy, right?!? We were just these little high schoolers who dated each other and caused a lot of drama and then ended up going to college & graduating together! Time flies too fast, especially when you’re having fun!

I decided to jot down 10 ways that I am still trying to “master” and I put that in quotes because marriage is not something you master; marriage is something that you continually work at and eventually reap the benefits of.

Now, take note that not every marriage is the same… there will be similarities but don’t assume that because these things work for me, they will for you too. I am merely just sharing from MY MARRIAGE & hope that you can find at least ONE thing you can implement or continue to do in yours.

Without further ado,

1) Tell your spouse VERBALLY how much you love him. How many times do we get so caught up with “LIFE” that we sometimes forget to say those three words – “I.LOVE.YOU”? My husband is better at reminding me that he loves me than I am of reminding him. ¬†I am so horrible at this. At times, my husband would say those three special words but crazy me, my mind or attention would be somewhere else and I easily forget how special those words are and just for the sake of getting it done, I say them… blatantly & with little sincerity. David usually likes for me to look into his eyes and say those words. I am so guilty and my prayer is to improve in this area.Well, it’s a New Year and you and I can do new things, starting with our marriages.

2) Pray for him DAILY. If you didn’t already know, marriages are under attack. The devil would love to see God’s meaning of Marriage become twisted, perverted, & unappreciated. As a wife, it is my duty and privilege to pray for my husband, especially since God has made him the Head of our home. If the head of the household is not in lined with God’s Word, it’s harder for the rest of the family to follow him. So pray for him, earnestly, faithfully, and sincerely. Here are a few ways I found on Pinterest:

a) From Head to Toe 

b) 1-Week Prayer Guide

c) 5 Prayers to Daily Pray

3) Praise him in front of your children as often as possible. Your children need to see that their “Daddy” isn’t just a man, he’s thee man! He should be the handsomest, most hardworking, most amazing man they will ever come into contact with. They should (when the right time comes) desire to marry someone like Daddy.

4) Praise him in front of others. With all the technology we have now, it’s so easy to let the “whole world” know anything and everything! If we have that capability, why not let the “whole¬†world” know that you married the most incredible guy on planet earth (even though they may not think so). I mean, when was the last time you PRAISED your spouse on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter?

“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” (Prov. 31:23)

Here is a 1-week Praise Guide from Rachel Wojo.

5) Admire him like you used to during your “dating” years. Of course, dating each other shouldn’t end after marriage. Rather,¬†it should continue. But what I mean is, “look” at him, “treat” him, and “adore” him like you did BEFORE you got married. Admiration for your spouse shouldn’t stop at the beginning of your marriage but should continue AND continue to grow as the years go.

6)“Criticize” him.¬†It’s often that those closest to us can become our biggest critics. Criticism isn’t always bad. There’s a right WAY and as I’ve learned the hard way, a RIGHT TIME to criticize. Before you say something to your husband, practice saying it to yourself in a discrete and sweet way. For the longest time, my husband did not take my criticisms so well and mainly due to HOW I said them rather than WHAT I said. For example:

Instead of,¬†“Wow, I can’t believe you didn’t understand what I meant when I said….”

Rather say,¬†“Honey/Baby/Sweetheart, was I clear when I said… or was I hard to understand?

Instead of directing it right to him, indirectly direct it to him by directing it to you? (Does that even make sense?) Well, pretty much, have tact and grace.

7)¬†Compliment him.¬†How often do we give compliments to those that aren’t our loved ones? I’ll be honest to admit that I’ve done that more times than I can count. And how sad is it for our spouse to hear more compliments from another co-worker than from his own wife? Be careful! Make sure this isn’t happening in your family. ¬†I have known people, even preachers to fall into sin of this sort and end up leaving a family they “supposedly” loved. Compliment him about everything that you notice. Some may be:

  a) You smell really good right now! I love it when your wear that deodorant.

    b) Thank you for putting gas in the van. I appreciate how thoughtful you were in doing that.

    c) You did a super job taking care of that problem!

    d) You encourage me to reach out and love people more.

You should be a critic to your spouse but more so, his #1 cheerleader! (compliment/or isn’t really a word so cheerleader should suffice) ūüôā

8) Elevate his talents. Find something that he’s good at – just one thing. Don’t tell me that he isn’t good at anything because if he wasn’t, why would you have married him in the first place? My husband is very artistic. If he really wanted to, he could’ve been a voice actor, cartoonist, comic book artist, a HOLLYWOOD star but eh… no thanks, I’m keeping this guy all to myself (haha). Your spouse may be a good cook, great gardener, a sports guy, a singer, whatever… JUST FIND SOMETHING & elevate it, ¬†meaning, let him use it in ways that are within your means & calling. Don’t let him lose it… remember, if you don’t use it, you lose it.

9) Do what he “enjoys” once in a while.¬†As humans, it’s quite easy and convenient to do what WE want. We are selfish people by nature. But if you really want to be a help-meet to your spouse, make time for what’s “important” to him. If your spouse enjoys something, then that means it has some level of importance. So go out & fish with him, play some ball, go for a drive, whatever… just do something YOU KNOW he enjoys and don’t wait for him to mention it. Be the one to initiate so he knows that you are actually making an effort.

10) Make him FEEL like he’s the most special person in the world.¬†Apart from Christ, your spouse should be your very best friend. I grew up having best friends, mostly in Grade School to Junior High. During high school, I kind of drifted away from that mentality. However, I do have a few very close friends, whom I am very grateful for. So please don’t get me wrong, if you have girl or guy best friend who is not your spouse, awesome (so long as your friendship is not as intimate as with your spouse). For me, there’s only ONE human person that I would share anything and everything with and that is my husband, who is my best friend. A best friend should feel more special than any regular friend that you have and that is how you should make your spouse feel. Feelings aren’t everything, I know, but there is a reason why God made us with emotions. So with 2017, make him FEEL like he’s beyond special!

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen. 2:18)

You can either be a help-meet to your spouse or a help, meet for him. Either way, God created you¬†so that your husband wouldn’t be alone. ūüôā

Just as you joined hands on your Big Day, may you join hands in this journey we call marriage. 

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By God’s Grace,

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Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

Repetition is the key to learning, right?… or wrong?

I have found this to be a little controversial in marriage with one specific area…(at least in MY marriage). I’m sure most, if not all wives have “NAGGED” their husbands at one time or another during their marriage. I, for sure am guilty of it.

Nagging has a ripple affect just as raindrops do. You start and then you just go on and on and on… even about the really minute things!

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Whether it be my husband leaving clothes on the floor, leaving a light on, forgetting to hang something up, so on and so forth; I have nagged him and I’m actually surprised he hasn’t said anything back in our almost 4 years of marriage; at least nothing that would be considered as “biting back.”¬† (He knows better.. Just kidding!)

He has graciously accepted my nagging.

Now, before you judge my husband, I encourage you to read this article I found recently about not being a “Butthole Wife.” The Title may sound a little funny but it was such a great reminder to me, as I am sure it will be to you.

As a former Elementary teacher, Repetition was a key method to use for a lot of things… However, we can’t treat our spouses like our Elementary students (even when they act like it).

At this moment, you may be wondering what a “CONTINUAL DROPPING” is.

No, it’s not when a bird poos continuously, or when your newborn baby has non-stop diaper changes… or when you have diarrhea! Haha!

I looked up the phrase, “Continual Dropping” in the Bible and found it twice in the Book of Proverbs.

Proverbs 27:15 -“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”

It’s been raining a lot here at our place and I actually have enjoyed it (mainly because the sun still manages to come out). Now, if it rained here for a whole week straight… I may not enjoy it as much.

If you think about it, if you’re the type of wife, fiance, or girlfriend that is constantly nagging your other half, I’m sure that relationship will be full of strife. Just as a continuous rainy day may not be as enjoyable, a contentious woman is the same – she’s not really an easy one to live or deal with.

Proverbs 19:13b – “…the contentions of a wife are a¬†continual dropping.”

I can’t even remember how many times I’ve nagged my husband, and¬†caused contention between us… mainly for me because I set certain expectations that my husband doesn’t¬†really obtain; not because he doesn’t want to but because our priorities for certain things may not be on the same level. For example, after coming home from a long day’s work, my husband may just want to change into comfortable clothes right away to spend time with our girls…Now, I, on the other hand, may want him to help me clean up around the house. (Of course, some of you may be thinking that we just need to communicate that to each other) But that’s not my point… my point is… his higher priority coming home from work is to spend time with our two daughters whom he hasn’t seen all day…¬†And honestly, I would rather prefer that than arguing with him about his leaving clothes on the floor.

Lately, I’ve been thinking… how can I NOT BE a continual dropping as a wife and as a mother?

So, here are 3 ways that I have been “trying.”

  1. Thank God for giving you another day to live. I am positive those that passed away at the airport shooting in Florida weren’t anticipating it to be their last day. It really breaks my heart that someone would do something like that, with no thought of the sanctity of human life. I pray for their families. Each day that is granted to us is a blessing from God and this is a blessing that sadly, many of us forget to thank God for. But how different would our days go if we started with a grateful heart? I’m sure they wouldn’t¬†be perfect all the time but we get to choose how we react to the tasks that we are given or the obstacles that come our way.

828dc91d8dafae6d9eb5d22ecdeb2dad2.¬†Treat every day with your spouse and your children as if it was your last day with them…¬† I have been saddened to hear news of people passing away because of illnesses or dying due to car accidents, weather accidents, etc. If we just thought about each day as it were our last with those that mean the most to us, I am POSITIVE that we would live it differently and treat “THEM” differently AND better!

3. Train yourself to walk in someone else’s shoes for ¬†“a mile.”¬†Ok, I don’t mean that “mile” part literally but I won’t stop you if you choose to. But really, before we judge someone or treat someone a certain way, think about how their day went (at work, at school, at home…) or what trials¬†they may be¬†going through. How sad would it be for a husband or wife to be treated better at their workplace than at home, right? But sadly, it happens EVERY DAY! A home should be a place that people should look forward to, not dread!¬†The next time you feel frustrated because of your spouse’s lack of _____________ (you fill in the blank)… think about how their day was at work (it may not have gone as well as you think). Or the next time you get angry at your children for doing _____________ or not doing ___________(you fill in the blanks), think about how they feel when both of their parents work… or when they’ve been cooped up in the house “ALL DAY.”

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So, if you’re a wife or mother, (especially) I encourage you to

Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

 

BECAUSE IN THE END, You’ll realize that it was just a waste of your time.

Time that you could’ve used to enjoy picking up those clothes on the floor.

Time that you could’ve used to just “see the need, take the lead” and turn off the unused lights or hang something up.

Time that you could’ve used teaching and forgiving rather than being angry and regretting what you said later on to your little child who was innocent and just needed a little encouragement or push to do the right thing.

TIME…. that unfortunately, you cannot take back. You have already lost it and there is no re-do button.

Instead, you can just press forward with the REMINDER that

TIME IS VALUABLE AND MUST BE SPENT WISELY.

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“Behold, I will do a new thing…”

No doubt, many either stayed up to RING IN THE NEW YEAR or slept FROM ALL THE FUN CHEER!

But one thing is for sure, if you are reading this, you made it into 2017! Congrats! I’m sure 2016 had its shares of good & bad and ups & downs, and 2017 will probably be the same to a point. We don’t know a lot of what 2017 may hold, but as Christians, we shouldn’t fret because we already know who holds tomorrow! (Praise Jesus!)

I’m sure there are millions and even billions out there who have set “NEW YEAR’S RESOLUTIONS.” I, for one, didn’t necessarily make resolutions but instead set goals with a game plan. I’m sure that not all of my “plans” will go¬†as I want them to this year but someone wise once said,

“He who aims at nothing hits it every time.”¬†

 

I should at least try, right?

How silly would it be for someone to go to war without a game plan?

I’d say, ridiculous!

But yet, as Christians, we carelessly go to war EVERYDAY without THEE GAME PLAN – The Word of God and if you read the Bible, you will find that in this Book, there is the ARMOUR of God.

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Now, going back to that quote… I’m sure with the NEW YEAR, many wanted to have some “Spiritual Encouragement” and therefore attended church on Sunday. After all, what better way to start 2017 than by going to God’s House, right? But sadly, that won’t be “A REGULAR THING.” I don’t mean to be negative but I’ve seen it year after year…

Today, Church is viewed as “an obligation” rather than “a privilege.” It has become more of a gathering place of friends to fellowship rather than a place to worship the Living God. It has become a place for entertainment rather than a place of exalting the One, True God. Rather than it being a safe-haven for the hurt, it becomes a secret-place of gossip.

With 2017 already here, ¬†let’s strive to make it different from 2016. Let’s make it better. Let’s include the ONE who gave it to us, God.

So I ask you,¬†“How was your 1st day of 2017?”¬†Maybe you ended 2016 believing in your heart that you wouldn’t do certain things or say certain things, but there you were already¬†saying something that wasn’t honest, just, pure, lovely, or of good report. Well, friend, I’m here to tell you that tomorrow can be different. It can be better with God’s help.

Isaiah 43:19 says, “Behold, I will do a NEW THING; now it shall spring forth; shall ye not know it? I will even make a way in the wilderness, and rivers in the desert.”

No matter how your 2016 went, if you know Jesus as your Saviour, you can have confidence. You can accomplish what you never thought you could. You can do all things through Christ which strengtheneth you. (Philippians 4:13)

Don’t be discouraged by whatever happened or didn’t happen in 2016.

Today is a NEW DAY and 2017 is a NEW YEAR!

Don’t be so caught up on LAST YEAR that you miss out on the NEW OPPORTUNITIES, NEW PRIVILEGES, and NEW BLESSINGS that God has in store for you TODAY & THIS YEAR!

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***Featured Photo by Stephen Crowley on Unsplash!

8 Okays in Marriage

This coming March 2017, my husband and I will be celebrating our 4th year anniversary!!! It’s been a crazy/fun/amazing rollercoaster! In the past 3 1/2 years, I’ve been tested in my love, commitment, forgiveness, faith, and joy.

Marriage is that “thing” that almost everyone looks forward to. (Or is that the wedding?) Well, I remember 4 1/2 years ago when David proposed to me…it seems as if it was just yesterday!

AND NOW…we have two little female humans living with us, who can sometimes be very demanding BUT… have given us more joy than we could ever imagine.

As I look back on this year, I can honestly say that I haven’t been the best wife to my husband… just speaking honestly.¬†I know that I could’ve done more…¬†FOR HIM.

I could’ve prayed for him more (a lot more), dated him more, ¬†wrote more notes to him, encouraged him more, helped lessen his load more, and the list could go on and on but you get the point.¬†

It’s so easy when you’re in the “dating” stage to overlook or “not” look at the faults of the person you’re dating…OH but when you get married, EVERYTHING GETS MAGNIFIED!

BUT TODAY, in spite of my shortcomings or the shortcomings of my husband, I wanted to share 8 things that I absolutely love about OUR marriage:

  • It’s ok¬†to be down-to-earth,¬†especially with each other.¬†It’s way better than being uptight and the couple who¬†doesn’t have friends. We like to be with friends but we also like to have our us-time. We still hang out with our friends, even if they’re not married.
  • It’s ok to be¬†comfortable with each other. –¬†We can say things to each other that only we ¬†would understand; we call each other in public by “clucking” (especially when our phones are dead or not in our possession). Tell him anything and everything. After all, you did commit to¬†being with him til death do you part.¬†Don’t be afraid to also tell him when you’re UNCOMFORTABLE with¬†something.¬†
  • It’s ok if you don’t like the same things. We love a few of the same things but dislike a lot of things –¬†Believe it or not, I was one of those kids that didn’t grow up watching the cartoon channel on Saturday mornings. Now, I still don’t watch the cartoon channel on Saturday mornings.¬†BUT…. I have watched some cartoon movies (thanks to my husband) and he also got me into watching some of the DC shows (which he doesn’t even watch anymore).¬†HOWEVER, I do not like his comic books nor his toy figurines/collection and believe me, if he were to die first, I’m selling those… I’m pretty sure I could survive with whatever amount I make… haha! No, but really, he’s the one that told me I could sell his collection if he died first. Moving on – He has a sweet tooth; I don’t. He likes flat pillows, I like the hard, fluffy ones.¬†
  • ¬†It’s ok to work¬†together and serve together. – ¬†We are both Bible College Graduates¬†and are now in full-time Christian ministry. The past few days have reminded me “why” I love serving with him. We get to meet¬†people and minister to them, pray with and for them, and we both get to have fun while we try to “work” our crazy schedules, which are always not “FINAL.” Serve others together. There’s¬†something¬†about serving others and doing so with your spouse! It’s AWESOME!
  • It’s ok to understand & know how each other is feeling. –¬† He knows when I’m sad, mad, hungry, frustrated, disappointed, discouraged, excited, etc. He’s definitely my soul-mate!¬†He knows me all too well, sometimes more than I know myself. I know when he’s discouraged, disappointed, or happy. But I’ll be honest, I¬†believe He gets me¬†more than I get him,¬†which is¬†why this point is specifically geared towards him.¬†
  • It’s ok¬†to have fun & make fun (of each other). –¬†“Fun” in our language can mean¬†different things… sometimes, it’s just going out, like to the mall or the park; other times, it’s eating out! Ok,¬†a lot of our fun does involve eating… but¬†what can we say, WE LOVE FOOD!¬†Sometimes, we like to mock each other… but¬†definitely to the point when we know to stop…¬†
  • It’s ok to be honest with each other. – We compliment each other and we also give criticism. If I make food that he¬†isn’t too¬†fond of (but I am), he will graciously tell me. But he also still tells me I’m Beautiful (even when I really don’t feel or look like it). I usually compliment him when I smell his¬†deodorant or body wash… and I “try” to kindly criticize him when he doesn’t smell too good. I say “try”¬†because I can be a very blunt, straightforward person.¬†
  • It’s ok to¬†need a break from the kids. As working parents, especially since both of us are in Christian Ministry, a lot of days can be tiring just like any other job… but being in Ministry can sometimes go beyond the 8-5 or 9-6 work hours. There are days when my schedule is more packed than my husbands’ and vice versa and David is very good about letting me get my rest. He also knows¬†when to just let the kids get their energy out, outside, after being¬†cooped up in the house for hours. Other times, we divide & conquer! He gets one girl & I get the¬†other… (Not sure how that’ll work out once we have our next one(s)! (Wink, Wink)

This list is one that will be on the “to be continued…” category because I know that TRUE LOVE is love that is CONTINUALLY GROWING and so will the lists…. so until next time!

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Loving the Unlovable

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There he was, disrupting the class, AGAIN!!! I usually have three warnings before I give a student demerits, but Mark had long exceeded the warnings. I was pregnant at this time with my first child and my emotions, hormones, (you name it!) were all over the place. I became easily fed up with any and every thing that annoyed me.

I even came to the point where I cried (IN FRONT OF MY WHOLE CLASS)! Embarrassing? At that moment, I could care less. You know how sometimes you can use ‚Äúcrying‚ÄĚ as a tool for someone to ‚Äúfeel‚ÄĚ sorry for you? Well, I can‚Äôt remember if that was my goal, but I can remember the whole class being so quiet, as if you could hear¬†each child’s heartbeat.

At this time, Mark had stopped misbehaving, but it was too late; he had already pushed every single button I had. To top it off, it wasn’t even 12PM yet! ūüė¶

This was the scenario ALMOST EVERY DAY OF THAT SCHOOL YEAR. How did I survive?

ONE WORD.

GRACE – specifically, GOD’S GRACE!

I was privileged to have a restroom in my classroom and many, if not all¬†times, it was VERY CONVENIENT for me (Don’t Forget, I was pregnant)! Every time, I went into this restroom, I saw¬†a picture frame with some kind of background¬†(I can’t remember) and on that background¬†was a quote that went something like this, “The best time to love someone is when they are UNLOVABLE.” Those were not the exact words but somewhere in that realm. I remember seeing that, especially on the days that Mark was unlovable and think to myself, “How am I supposed to love this student? He’s so disruptive and disrespectful!” My most common prayer that school year was probably, “God help me and please give me grace.”

Now, Mark came from a broken home. He lived with his dad and older brother; his mom was out of the picture. I tried to understand his background and the lack of a mother-figure in his life but some days were tougher than others.¬†During those tougher days, I wouldn’t care what background he came from; I wouldn’t care about the quote I saw in the restroom; I just didn’t care….

NOW imagine if GOD didn’t care. If He didn’t care, I wouldn’t be here; you wouldn’t be here; no one would be here. There would be no purpose for any of our lives – if God simply DID NOT CARE.

It’s easy in situations like the one i just described to NOT CARE but that mentality can destroy a person, a family, a church, a company, a city, a state, a country, and ¬†eventually our world.

Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines care as, “To be anxious or solicitous; to be concerned about.” To be concerned about “something” means that that¬†“something” is of great importance.

There I was thinking, “Well, he’s not that important to me.” Then God comes along and says to me, “Well, he’s important to me; and whatever is important to me should be important to you.” OUCH! Conviction hit strong!

 

Now, there are a few¬†meanings we can get from this “I don’t care” mentality.

  1. When someone says “I don’t care”, people tend to think the following:

a) That was rude. (A lot says about us by what we say, but more so, HOW we say¬†things) I think it’s quite weird and difficult to say, “I don’t care” ¬†joyfully. I¬†didn’t say it was impossible. It’s definitely possible. But that concept just¬†doesn’t go together. May we be careful HOW we say things.

b) Fine, if you don’t care, neither should I.¬†(What we think, do, or say can be contagious) What we need to keep in mind is, “Is what we’re spreading positive or negative?” “Is what we’re¬†spreading¬†helping or hurting others?” If I say, “I don’t care,¬†the tendency is the¬†other person will¬†probably think the same towards me.

c) Who cares about you, anyways?!?¬†(Usually in a moment of being hurt or offended, we become defensive) We respond in an unthoughtful way. We say things that we don’t really mean. We end up regretting what we said, did, or thought towards¬†another.

OK. So you’re probably¬†thinking what happened to Mark.¬†

Well, we got through the school year. It was a tough one but we managed. I noticed that whenever I responded to Mark’s misbehavior or disrespect towards me or his classmates in a soft, gentle but firm and loving manner, he responded positively. It was as if this little 2nd Grader was given hope again – hope that he could be better; hope that he could be liked; hope that could overcome the obstacles that were in his life.

I see Mark often. He’s still in school ¬†(as a 5TH GRADER NOW!!) ¬†and still difficult to deal with, at least from what I’ve heard from other teachers…

I thought after the school year was finished that Mark would hate me, simply because of the many times I corrected him, I gave him demerits and detentions, I had conferences with his dad, and he even got sent to the Principal’s office and almost got expelled!!!

But I look at him now and thank God that he’s still in school. I see a future man who God will use to accomplish great things for Him. The thought seems really far-fetched to me and maybe even to his current teachers but it’s amazing what God will do with someone like Mark!

So whether you’re a teacher who has a student like Mark, a parent who has a difficult child, an employer with a disrespectful employee or vice versa, or maybe even a “Mark”, here’s something to take with you:

TIMELESS TRUTH: “True love is when you are completely forgiving to someone who has been completely unloving.” -JudyLynn

John 13:34-35

A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another.

By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another.

1 John 4:7

Beloved, let us love one another: for love is of God; and every one that loveth is born of God, and knoweth God.

1 John 4:11

Beloved, if God so loved us, we ought also to love one another.

If we can’t forgive those who have been unlovable, then how do we expect God to forgive us?

GENUINE LOVE = GOD

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MY FIRST BLOG: BEFORE KNOWING ME, THIS IS FOR YOU!

Hello to everyone that will read this post. Although my faith is really small right now, at least I’m stepping out! So, here goes!

Welcome to “Loving Life Limitlessly!”

This blog is going to be anything and everything you could possibly think of that comes from my blog name.

Loving (Love – God, Others, You, Marriage, Children, Job, Ministry),

Life (Living, Being a Wife, Being a Mom, Being a Christian),

Limitlessly (Don’t let things, situations, trials, or others¬†stop you from reaching your greatest potential).

If there is at least 1 thing that can help you or even interests you, please come on back every week as I will be posting a NEW BLOG EVERY WEEK!

The purpose of this blog is to ENCOURAGE, EQUIP, and EDIFY!

  1. To encourage you to live the life that God intended you to have.
  2. To equip you with how to go on through this life, joyfully!
  3. To edify God and others.

With that being said,

Thank you for stopping by and I hope to be¬†a help, even if it’s just to YOU!

***If you want to know about me, come on back!