Welcome to this Month’s Word Focus – ADMIRATION!

Happy February!

We all admire something or someone. It can be a family member, a friend, or a Higher Being. It can be an item, something you possess, or even a place.

According to Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, admiration is wonder mingled with pleasing emotions, as approbation, esteem, love or veneration; a compound emotion excited by something novel, rare, great, or excellent;


We may not like to admit it but we can become complacent with those whom we see or associate with all the time; whether they be loved ones, co-workers, or friends, we can lose the “admiration” that we should be maintaining.

This February, I would like to encourage you all to join me as I focus on the word, ADMIRATION, mainly for God and for our families.

We live in a world and a society that is constantly criticizing or belittling God and the roles of fathers and mothers.

Many have lost the “wonder” of who God is, the “wonder” of who fathers and mothers should be, and the roles they were meant to partake in.


This month can sometimes be considered the “Love Month.”

Many go all out in honoring that special person or persons in their life. This month, I would like to encourage you in four different ways on how you can accomplish that.


Do things on purpose. Say things with purpose.


Be concerned with what you say, do, or think.


Be close, be near, be familiar. 


Be enveloped, be entangled, and be all wrapped up. 

I look forward to expounding on these four points this month and hope you come back and see how we can all be a part of this month’s word focus!


Until Next Time.

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4 Reasons for Taking Family Vacations

Believe it or not, the family is often attacked in our world. Instead of it becoming a priority, it becomes a burden. Everyone gets so busy making a living that they forget to actually live.

If you’re anything like me, you love Family Vacations. (I mean who doesn’t?!?)

I remember my first-ever “family vacation” was my honeymoon at Disneyworld (if that even counts).

The following year when we had our first girl, we went to Disneyland (LG was 3 months).

Next, we did a staycation and cleaned up our home and just went around  San Diego and the Zoo.

Last year, we went to Sea World because we had some free passes.

This year, we are still debating on whether we should go to Disneyland again or not. Our oldest is old enough to understand this place, which makes us pretty excited! And then we would like to explore around our hometown, San Diego (places we’ve never been to)  & go around Los Angeles.

If you can’t tell already, my husband and I don’t have extravagant lives or jobs. We are both in full-time Christian Ministry and we have been ever since we graduated college 5 years ago.

No doubt, our vacations are not “all-that” compared to others but the most important thing to us about this time is just getting away from the routine and mundane schedule of our lives.

Here are the top reasons why I believe Family Vacations are a MUST:


When was the last time you actually, truly relaxed?  Sleeping does not count! Webster’s 1828 Dictionary defines relaxation as 1. The act of slackening or remitting tension; as a relaxation of the muscles, fibers or nerves; a relaxation of the whole system.

I don’t know about you but I am way overdue for a good, long massage! I don’t know how many times my husband has cracked my back or massaged my feet but definitely more than I can remember! (He’s pretty awesome!)

We all have busy lives, whether you’re a WAHM, SAHM, or Working Mom (Outside of home). If we’re honest, life does take a toll on us physically, mentally, and spiritually, which is why we need some time dedicated to just relaxing. This means that we shouldn’t even think about work, chores around the house, or future projects. We should focus on relaxing our bodies and minds so that we may recover from the past year’s or years’ worth of work.


To recuperate means to recover or regain. Believe it or not, working makes you lose some things. You lose time (time-wasted and time-used), which could mean time you could’ve had with your spouse or your children. You have probably lost hair and maybe some brain cells from all the stress you’ve had to deal with. 😬😂

Getting away with your family might not get that time that was wasted or used, back, but you can definitely make it up by doing fun, memorable things. No matter how long your vacation may be, it should always be a time that the whole family looks forward to.


To Energize means 1) To give strength or force to; to give active vigor to.

We all have been energized throughout the year. We could’ve taken naps, slept in on some days, or slept early. Doing these things give us energy to go on for the next day or few days.

To Re-energize means more than just taking naps, sleeping in, or sleeping early. It means to fully devote yourself to a certain amount of time or days to just get your strength back & many times, all it takes is a few days of doing absolutely nothing related to your occupation.

In order to properly function, we need enough rest and strength. When we have these, we will be ready for the next round of work, chores, and responsibilities.


Refresh is defined as the following: To give new strength to; to invigorate; to relieve after fatigue; as, to refresh the body. (Exodus 23:12)

Being around the same people all the time and doing the same things all the time can sometimes cause us to be complacent. Have you ever gone out with your family and thought or even prayed that you wouldn’t see anyone you knew?!? Yeah, I’m totally guilty!

I never used to be like this but as my family grew, I’ve learned to cherish every moment with them and sometimes, that means sacrificing time with my & my husband’s friends. We’ve had to say, “NO” on multiple occasions whenever we were asked to go out, mainly because we wanted to just have family time. There’s just something awesome about spending time with family.

Would you believe it that even Jesus rested; not because he was tired but so he could show forth an example for us to follow.

He rested after 6 days of creating the beautiful world we live in. (Genesis 2)

He napped after He boarded a ship with His disciples, but was woken up after a raging storm came their way and frightened the disciples. (Luke 8)

Rest is needed in order to have new strength or be refreshed for what lies ahead of you.

“RESTING is not the same as LAZINESS.” J.Cabal

Although Jesus rested, you’ll find that even right after a nap, he went straight into doing miracles and healing people; in other words, He was working!

If you haven’t taken family vacations, I urge you to do so! They aren’t just for memory-making moments, but also for your health.

It is difficult to function with little or no sleep; imagine trying to take on a whole year without a designated time for just rest? WE WOULD LOSE OUR MINDS!

So, take a family vacation, whether it’s with just your spouse or with your spouse and children!

Your mind, body, and soul need to be refreshed!

Believe me, you need it & you deserve it!





A Spiritual Spring Cleaning

As humans, we’re all guilty of complaining or murmuring every once in a while. We even complain about not having anything to wear when we have a closet full of clothes. We murmur about how we can’t find anything to eat when our refrigerators and freezers are packed with food. We covet the new gadget our friend has because ours is an older version.

You see the real problem is not the complaining or murmuring; It’s a lack of gratitude towards God.

I remember when I was in the 1st or 2nd grade, my grandma was my main guardian since my dad was in the Navy and out at sea for 6 months. We lived in a 1-bedroom apartment, along with several other relatives. I don’t remember much, but I do remember lying to my grandma about a field trip I had. I knew that she would not allow me (or at least I assumed) to go on that trip (it was a swimming trip). So what I did was I packed my backpack with extra clothes. Every weekday, she would walk from our apartment to my school which was about 10 minutes. Since I knew that we would be arriving 20 minutes before school ended, I planned it out so I had enough time to change into the same clothes I wore when she dropped me off in the morning.

Nobody taught me to lie. It’s just in my sinful nature. In spite of my wrongdoing, I am grateful for a gracious and merciful God.

The Bible gives a list of things that God hates. Now, hate is not a “crime” if you are hating on things that break God’s heart. No doubt, as the Creator and Maker of this universe, He has the right to hate whatever would draw us away from Him.


Spring is here and we all could do some spring cleaning. As much as we may need to clean out our homes, offices, or whatever else, we tend to forget or neglect a Spiritual Cleansing.

Rather than focusing on having clean homes,  let’s start having clean hearts. 

And here is how you can start today: Proverbs 6:16-19

  1. Get rid of your pride. We all have it and sometimes it can take its toll and make us into someone we will eventually regret being or cause us to do things that will disappoint. At the middle or center of the word PRIDE,  is the letter “i.” How incredible is it that the whole agenda of the the person with pride is centered around one thing – themselves? In addition, NOBODY likes or enjoys the company of those that are prideful. Proverbs 16:18, Psalm 101:5,
  2. Stop lying. Whether you’re a young adult or an older adult reading this, we all need to be reminded that there is no such thing as a little white lie. A lie is a lie and God hates lying. Proverbs 12:19, 22, Proverbs 19:9,
  3. Stop shedding innocent blood. I am against abortion, simply because the Bible says it’s murder. There could be reason after reason as to why someone would commit abortion but it does not mean it’s right.  “Wrong is wrong even if everyone else is doing it and right is right even if no one else is doing it.”  I could go on talking about this topic but I’ll just leave it at that. Exodus 20:13
  4. Stop planning wicked things. Whatsoever a man thinketh in his heart, so is he. Before someone does something wicked, they think about something wicked. Actions are a result of a desire instilled in someone’s mind and heart. Proverbs 1:16, Psalm 36:4,
  5. Start being wise. King Solomon is the wisest man that ever lived. However, he still did some foolish things. Many of us jump into something, before getting counsel or taking deep consideration. We become so quick to run to mischief and end up hurting ourselves and sometimes, those closest to us. Proverbs 12:15, James 1:5, Proverbs 16:9
  6. Stop being a false witness, speaking lies. Many times, people twist the meaning of somethings. Some use the phrase, “Please pray for so & so… or Have you heard”
    only to open up a can of worms. In reality, we don’t mean well when we say this; rather we are wanting to start the game of Telephone. This game can start off by having two teams or groups. Each group forms a line. The leader then whispers a phrase to the first person in line and that person is to repeat whatever the he/she heard to the next person and so on… The only catch is you are only allowed to say “the phrase” one time. The first of last person in each group to say the correct phrase wins. The point of this game is what you hear is not always the truth and when stuff gets spread, it becomes gossip and what was mentioned in the beginning becomes twisted, many times, far from the truth. Proverbs 16:28, James 1:26, Proverbs 20:19, Exodus 23:1
  7. Stop sowing discord among brethren.  I have heard that the only army that shoots down itself is the Christian army. As sad as that sounds, there’s some truth to that. How often do Christians criticize, discourage, or gossip about other Christians? It happens way too much in Christian circles and it ought not to. How is the world, (the unsaved) supposed to want to have what we have if we don’t act & live what we “preach?” Romans 16:17-18, James 4:11

So whether you’re the person with the cleanest home or the the person that is constantly trying to clean your house but stuff shows up out of nowhere, we could all use a Spring Cleansing of our Hearts during this season and we can start by applying this list.




My first daughter, who will be three in April recently started calling me “MOM.”

When she was still a baby, my husband and I would compete and try to get her to say, “Mama” or “Dada” first. (I mean which first-time parents don’t do that, right?)

We have two daughters now and none of them had “Mama” as their first word. LG’s first word was “Dada” and AJ’s first word was “juice.” How, you may ask? I HAVE NO IDEA! Lol!

After the “Mama” stage, you anticipate when they’ll say, “Mommy” and get excited about it, but when LG started calling me, “MOM” (consistently) a few days ago, it was a different kind of feeling. I felt “sad” to witness my first-born growing up so fast right before my eyes. It wasn’t like an “unhappy-sad,” it was more like a “happy-sad/don’t-leave-me-ever” kind of feeling.

A quote I came up with last year was:


As a mom or dad, we need to keep in mind that our children don’t belong to us.

YES, you might have given birth to them;

YES, you provide for them financially;

YES, you send them to school and help them with homework or projects;

YES, you provide shelter for them;

YES, you feed them multiple times a day;

YES, you teach them how to drive and maybe even buy their first car;

YES, you might have helped a little financially for their wedding;

YES, you are the one that is there during their sad times and happy times, during their victories and losses, during their special moments…and not-so-special moments.

YES, you are their MOM OR DAD…

YES, you do the “work” of raising them…

But before you even became their mom or dad, your child(ren) were already on God’s mind.

HE is the Giver of Life.

HE is the Giver of Strength.

HE is the Giver of Finances.

HE is the Giver of Wisdom.

HE is the Giver of Children… yes, YOUR CHILDREN!

So why do we as parents hold on to our children as if they are ours?

If we just remember that we are only BORROWING them from the LORD, we might be BETTER STEWARDS OF PARENTING THEM.

Generally, parents think that they have 18 years, at least, to be with their children. After that, it’s college life and possibly meeting their future spouse and spending the rest of their lives with that spouse.

18 years. You have: 

216 Months or

939 Weeks or

6570 Days or

157680 Hours or

9,460,800 Minutes or

567,648,000 Seconds

Possibly left with your child(ren).

“The days are long but the years are short!”

So why not spend those years…




your child(ren);

rather than




As parents, we only desire the best for our children; but which best? “Our” best or “God’s” Best? Because God’s Best is so much more and better than ours. So let’s stop thinking that it is our job, duty, or responsibility to MAKE  our children what they need to be.

You see, we make that mistake. We think that God gave our children to us so we can make them into the “masterpiece” that maybe, we failed to be or our parents failed to raise us in becoming.

God gave us our children so that we can “train” and “teach” them the way that they should go…(Proverbs 22:6) not the way that we want them to go.

So remember,

  • Children are a gift FROM GOD. (Psalm 127:3)
  • We are only borrowing our children; They are not ours for keeps. (Psalm 127:4)
  • We have a limited time with them. Make the most of it! (Deuteronomy 6:7; 11:19)

I love what Jack Wellman says about this verse here.

  • Raise the children God has given you in the nurture and admonition of the LORD. (Ephesians 6:4b)
  • Our job is not to MAKE our children what we want them to be but what God has already planned for them to be. (Joshua 24:15; Genesis 18:19; Malachi 2:15; Romans 12:2; Matthew 6:33)


***Featured photo by Nathan Anderson on Unsplash!

10 Ways to be a Help Meet

I am so excited for this coming March, not because we’ll have a crazy work schedule but because my husband and I will be celebrating 4 years of marriage!!! Crazy, right?!? We were just these little high schoolers who dated each other and caused a lot of drama and then ended up going to college & graduating together! Time flies too fast, especially when you’re having fun!

I decided to jot down 10 ways that I am still trying to “master” and I put that in quotes because marriage is not something you master; marriage is something that you continually work at and eventually reap the benefits of.

Now, take note that not every marriage is the same… there will be similarities but don’t assume that because these things work for me, they will for you too. I am merely just sharing from MY MARRIAGE & hope that you can find at least ONE thing you can implement or continue to do in yours.

Without further ado,

1) Tell your spouse VERBALLY how much you love him. How many times do we get so caught up with “LIFE” that we sometimes forget to say those three words – “I.LOVE.YOU”? My husband is better at reminding me that he loves me than I am of reminding him.  I am so horrible at this. At times, my husband would say those three special words but crazy me, my mind or attention would be somewhere else and I easily forget how special those words are and just for the sake of getting it done, I say them… blatantly & with little sincerity. David usually likes for me to look into his eyes and say those words. I am so guilty and my prayer is to improve in this area.Well, it’s a New Year and you and I can do new things, starting with our marriages.

2) Pray for him DAILY. If you didn’t already know, marriages are under attack. The devil would love to see God’s meaning of Marriage become twisted, perverted, & unappreciated. As a wife, it is my duty and privilege to pray for my husband, especially since God has made him the Head of our home. If the head of the household is not in lined with God’s Word, it’s harder for the rest of the family to follow him. So pray for him, earnestly, faithfully, and sincerely. Here are a few ways I found on Pinterest:

a) From Head to Toe 

b) 1-Week Prayer Guide

c) 5 Prayers to Daily Pray

3) Praise him in front of your children as often as possible. Your children need to see that their “Daddy” isn’t just a man, he’s thee man! He should be the handsomest, most hardworking, most amazing man they will ever come into contact with. They should (when the right time comes) desire to marry someone like Daddy.

4) Praise him in front of others. With all the technology we have now, it’s so easy to let the “whole world” know anything and everything! If we have that capability, why not let the “whole world” know that you married the most incredible guy on planet earth (even though they may not think so). I mean, when was the last time you PRAISED your spouse on Facebook, Instagram, or Twitter?

“Her husband is known in the gates, when he sitteth among the elders of the land.” (Prov. 31:23)

Here is a 1-week Praise Guide from Rachel Wojo.

5) Admire him like you used to during your “dating” years. Of course, dating each other shouldn’t end after marriage. Rather, it should continue. But what I mean is, “look” at him, “treat” him, and “adore” him like you did BEFORE you got married. Admiration for your spouse shouldn’t stop at the beginning of your marriage but should continue AND continue to grow as the years go.

6)“Criticize” him. It’s often that those closest to us can become our biggest critics. Criticism isn’t always bad. There’s a right WAY and as I’ve learned the hard way, a RIGHT TIME to criticize. Before you say something to your husband, practice saying it to yourself in a discrete and sweet way. For the longest time, my husband did not take my criticisms so well and mainly due to HOW I said them rather than WHAT I said. For example:

Instead of, “Wow, I can’t believe you didn’t understand what I meant when I said….”

Rather say, “Honey/Baby/Sweetheart, was I clear when I said… or was I hard to understand?

Instead of directing it right to him, indirectly direct it to him by directing it to you? (Does that even make sense?) Well, pretty much, have tact and grace.

7) Compliment him. How often do we give compliments to those that aren’t our loved ones? I’ll be honest to admit that I’ve done that more times than I can count. And how sad is it for our spouse to hear more compliments from another co-worker than from his own wife? Be careful! Make sure this isn’t happening in your family.  I have known people, even preachers to fall into sin of this sort and end up leaving a family they “supposedly” loved. Compliment him about everything that you notice. Some may be:

  a) You smell really good right now! I love it when your wear that deodorant.

    b) Thank you for putting gas in the van. I appreciate how thoughtful you were in doing that.

    c) You did a super job taking care of that problem!

    d) You encourage me to reach out and love people more.

You should be a critic to your spouse but more so, his #1 cheerleader! (compliment/or isn’t really a word so cheerleader should suffice) 🙂

8) Elevate his talents. Find something that he’s good at – just one thing. Don’t tell me that he isn’t good at anything because if he wasn’t, why would you have married him in the first place? My husband is very artistic. If he really wanted to, he could’ve been a voice actor, cartoonist, comic book artist, a HOLLYWOOD star but eh… no thanks, I’m keeping this guy all to myself (haha). Your spouse may be a good cook, great gardener, a sports guy, a singer, whatever… JUST FIND SOMETHING & elevate it,  meaning, let him use it in ways that are within your means & calling. Don’t let him lose it… remember, if you don’t use it, you lose it.

9) Do what he “enjoys” once in a while. As humans, it’s quite easy and convenient to do what WE want. We are selfish people by nature. But if you really want to be a help-meet to your spouse, make time for what’s “important” to him. If your spouse enjoys something, then that means it has some level of importance. So go out & fish with him, play some ball, go for a drive, whatever… just do something YOU KNOW he enjoys and don’t wait for him to mention it. Be the one to initiate so he knows that you are actually making an effort.

10) Make him FEEL like he’s the most special person in the world. Apart from Christ, your spouse should be your very best friend. I grew up having best friends, mostly in Grade School to Junior High. During high school, I kind of drifted away from that mentality. However, I do have a few very close friends, whom I am very grateful for. So please don’t get me wrong, if you have girl or guy best friend who is not your spouse, awesome (so long as your friendship is not as intimate as with your spouse). For me, there’s only ONE human person that I would share anything and everything with and that is my husband, who is my best friend. A best friend should feel more special than any regular friend that you have and that is how you should make your spouse feel. Feelings aren’t everything, I know, but there is a reason why God made us with emotions. So with 2017, make him FEEL like he’s beyond special!

And the Lord God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. (Gen. 2:18)

You can either be a help-meet to your spouse or a help, meet for him. Either way, God created you so that your husband wouldn’t be alone. 🙂

Just as you joined hands on your Big Day, may you join hands in this journey we call marriage. 


By God’s Grace,


Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

Repetition is the key to learning, right?… or wrong?

I have found this to be a little controversial in marriage with one specific area…(at least in MY marriage). I’m sure most, if not all wives have “NAGGED” their husbands at one time or another during their marriage. I, for sure am guilty of it.

Nagging has a ripple affect just as raindrops do. You start and then you just go on and on and on… even about the really minute things!


Whether it be my husband leaving clothes on the floor, leaving a light on, forgetting to hang something up, so on and so forth; I have nagged him and I’m actually surprised he hasn’t said anything back in our almost 4 years of marriage; at least nothing that would be considered as “biting back.”  (He knows better.. Just kidding!)

He has graciously accepted my nagging.

Now, before you judge my husband, I encourage you to read this article I found recently about not being a “Butthole Wife.” The Title may sound a little funny but it was such a great reminder to me, as I am sure it will be to you.

As a former Elementary teacher, Repetition was a key method to use for a lot of things… However, we can’t treat our spouses like our Elementary students (even when they act like it).

At this moment, you may be wondering what a “CONTINUAL DROPPING” is.

No, it’s not when a bird poos continuously, or when your newborn baby has non-stop diaper changes… or when you have diarrhea! Haha!

I looked up the phrase, “Continual Dropping” in the Bible and found it twice in the Book of Proverbs.

Proverbs 27:15 -“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”

It’s been raining a lot here at our place and I actually have enjoyed it (mainly because the sun still manages to come out). Now, if it rained here for a whole week straight… I may not enjoy it as much.

If you think about it, if you’re the type of wife, fiance, or girlfriend that is constantly nagging your other half, I’m sure that relationship will be full of strife. Just as a continuous rainy day may not be as enjoyable, a contentious woman is the same – she’s not really an easy one to live or deal with.

Proverbs 19:13b – “…the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.”

I can’t even remember how many times I’ve nagged my husband, and caused contention between us… mainly for me because I set certain expectations that my husband doesn’t really obtain; not because he doesn’t want to but because our priorities for certain things may not be on the same level. For example, after coming home from a long day’s work, my husband may just want to change into comfortable clothes right away to spend time with our girls…Now, I, on the other hand, may want him to help me clean up around the house. (Of course, some of you may be thinking that we just need to communicate that to each other) But that’s not my point… my point is… his higher priority coming home from work is to spend time with our two daughters whom he hasn’t seen all day… And honestly, I would rather prefer that than arguing with him about his leaving clothes on the floor.

Lately, I’ve been thinking… how can I NOT BE a continual dropping as a wife and as a mother?

So, here are 3 ways that I have been “trying.”

  1. Thank God for giving you another day to live. I am positive those that passed away at the airport shooting in Florida weren’t anticipating it to be their last day. It really breaks my heart that someone would do something like that, with no thought of the sanctity of human life. I pray for their families. Each day that is granted to us is a blessing from God and this is a blessing that sadly, many of us forget to thank God for. But how different would our days go if we started with a grateful heart? I’m sure they wouldn’t be perfect all the time but we get to choose how we react to the tasks that we are given or the obstacles that come our way.

828dc91d8dafae6d9eb5d22ecdeb2dad2. Treat every day with your spouse and your children as if it was your last day with them…  I have been saddened to hear news of people passing away because of illnesses or dying due to car accidents, weather accidents, etc. If we just thought about each day as it were our last with those that mean the most to us, I am POSITIVE that we would live it differently and treat “THEM” differently AND better!

3. Train yourself to walk in someone else’s shoes for  “a mile.” Ok, I don’t mean that “mile” part literally but I won’t stop you if you choose to. But really, before we judge someone or treat someone a certain way, think about how their day went (at work, at school, at home…) or what trials they may be going through. How sad would it be for a husband or wife to be treated better at their workplace than at home, right? But sadly, it happens EVERY DAY! A home should be a place that people should look forward to, not dread! The next time you feel frustrated because of your spouse’s lack of _____________ (you fill in the blank)… think about how their day was at work (it may not have gone as well as you think). Or the next time you get angry at your children for doing _____________ or not doing ___________(you fill in the blanks), think about how they feel when both of their parents work… or when they’ve been cooped up in the house “ALL DAY.”


So, if you’re a wife or mother, (especially) I encourage you to

Stop Being a Continual Dropping!


BECAUSE IN THE END, You’ll realize that it was just a waste of your time.

Time that you could’ve used to enjoy picking up those clothes on the floor.

Time that you could’ve used to just “see the need, take the lead” and turn off the unused lights or hang something up.

Time that you could’ve used teaching and forgiving rather than being angry and regretting what you said later on to your little child who was innocent and just needed a little encouragement or push to do the right thing.

TIME…. that unfortunately, you cannot take back. You have already lost it and there is no re-do button.

Instead, you can just press forward with the REMINDER that



***Featured Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash!

8 Okays in Marriage

This coming March 2017, my husband and I will be celebrating our 4th year anniversary!!! It’s been a crazy/fun/amazing rollercoaster! In the past 3 1/2 years, I’ve been tested in my love, commitment, forgiveness, faith, and joy.

Marriage is that “thing” that almost everyone looks forward to. (Or is that the wedding?) Well, I remember 4 1/2 years ago when David proposed to me…it seems as if it was just yesterday!

AND NOW…we have two little female humans living with us, who can sometimes be very demanding BUT… have given us more joy than we could ever imagine.

As I look back on this year, I can honestly say that I haven’t been the best wife to my husband… just speaking honestly. I know that I could’ve done more… FOR HIM.

I could’ve prayed for him more (a lot more), dated him more,  wrote more notes to him, encouraged him more, helped lessen his load more, and the list could go on and on but you get the point. 

It’s so easy when you’re in the “dating” stage to overlook or “not” look at the faults of the person you’re dating…OH but when you get married, EVERYTHING GETS MAGNIFIED!

BUT TODAY, in spite of my shortcomings or the shortcomings of my husband, I wanted to share 8 things that I absolutely love about OUR marriage:

  • It’s ok to be down-to-earth, especially with each other. It’s way better than being uptight and the couple who doesn’t have friends. We like to be with friends but we also like to have our us-time. We still hang out with our friends, even if they’re not married.
  • It’s ok to be comfortable with each other. – We can say things to each other that only we  would understand; we call each other in public by “clucking” (especially when our phones are dead or not in our possession). Tell him anything and everything. After all, you did commit to being with him til death do you part. Don’t be afraid to also tell him when you’re UNCOMFORTABLE with something. 
  • It’s ok if you don’t like the same things. We love a few of the same things but dislike a lot of things – Believe it or not, I was one of those kids that didn’t grow up watching the cartoon channel on Saturday mornings. Now, I still don’t watch the cartoon channel on Saturday mornings. BUT…. I have watched some cartoon movies (thanks to my husband) and he also got me into watching some of the DC shows (which he doesn’t even watch anymore). HOWEVER, I do not like his comic books nor his toy figurines/collection and believe me, if he were to die first, I’m selling those… I’m pretty sure I could survive with whatever amount I make… haha! No, but really, he’s the one that told me I could sell his collection if he died first. Moving on – He has a sweet tooth; I don’t. He likes flat pillows, I like the hard, fluffy ones. 
  •  It’s ok to work together and serve together. –  We are both Bible College Graduates and are now in full-time Christian ministry. The past few days have reminded me “why” I love serving with him. We get to meet people and minister to them, pray with and for them, and we both get to have fun while we try to “work” our crazy schedules, which are always not “FINAL.” Serve others together. There’s something about serving others and doing so with your spouse! It’s AWESOME!
  • It’s ok to understand & know how each other is feeling. –  He knows when I’m sad, mad, hungry, frustrated, disappointed, discouraged, excited, etc. He’s definitely my soul-mate! He knows me all too well, sometimes more than I know myself. I know when he’s discouraged, disappointed, or happy. But I’ll be honest, I believe He gets me more than I get him, which is why this point is specifically geared towards him. 
  • It’s ok to have fun & make fun (of each other). – “Fun” in our language can mean different things… sometimes, it’s just going out, like to the mall or the park; other times, it’s eating out! Ok, a lot of our fun does involve eating… but what can we say, WE LOVE FOOD! Sometimes, we like to mock each other… but definitely to the point when we know to stop… 
  • It’s ok to be honest with each other. – We compliment each other and we also give criticism. If I make food that he isn’t too fond of (but I am), he will graciously tell me. But he also still tells me I’m Beautiful (even when I really don’t feel or look like it). I usually compliment him when I smell his deodorant or body wash… and I “try” to kindly criticize him when he doesn’t smell too good. I say “try” because I can be a very blunt, straightforward person. 
  • It’s ok to need a break from the kids. As working parents, especially since both of us are in Christian Ministry, a lot of days can be tiring just like any other job… but being in Ministry can sometimes go beyond the 8-5 or 9-6 work hours. There are days when my schedule is more packed than my husbands’ and vice versa and David is very good about letting me get my rest. He also knows when to just let the kids get their energy out, outside, after being cooped up in the house for hours. Other times, we divide & conquer! He gets one girl & I get the other… (Not sure how that’ll work out once we have our next one(s)! (Wink, Wink)

This list is one that will be on the “to be continued…” category because I know that TRUE LOVE is love that is CONTINUALLY GROWING and so will the lists…. so until next time!



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