ADMIRATION

Welcome to this Month’s Word Focus – ADMIRATION!

Happy February!

We all admire something or someone. It can be a family member, a friend, or a Higher Being. It can be an item, something you possess, or even a place.

According to Webster’s 1828 Dictionary, admiration is wonder mingled with pleasing emotions, as approbation, esteem, love or veneration; a compound emotion excited by something novel, rare, great, or excellent;

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We may not like to admit it but we can become complacent with those whom we see or associate with all the time; whether they be loved ones, co-workers, or friends, we can lose the “admiration” that we should be maintaining.

This February, I would like to encourage you all to join me as I focus on the word, ADMIRATION, mainly for God and for our families.

We live in a world and a society that is constantly criticizing or belittling God and the roles of fathers and mothers.

Many have lost the “wonder” of who God is, the “wonder” of who fathers and mothers should be, and the roles they were meant to partake in.

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This month can sometimes be considered the “Love Month.”

Many go all out in honoring that special person or persons in their life. This month, I would like to encourage you in four different ways on how you can accomplish that.

 BE INTENTIONAL. 

Do things on purpose. Say things with purpose.

BE INTERESTED. 

Be concerned with what you say, do, or think.

BE INTIMATE. 

Be close, be near, be familiar. 

BE INVOLVED. 

Be enveloped, be entangled, and be all wrapped up. 

I look forward to expounding on these four points this month and hope you come back and see how we can all be a part of this month’s word focus!

 

Until Next Time.

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Definitions taken from Websters1828Dictionary.com

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Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

Repetition is the key to learning, right?… or wrong?

I have found this to be a little controversial in marriage with one specific area…(at least in MY marriage). I’m sure most, if not all wives have “NAGGED” their husbands at one time or another during their marriage. I, for sure am guilty of it.

Nagging has a ripple affect just as raindrops do. You start and then you just go on and on and on… even about the really minute things!

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Whether it be my husband leaving clothes on the floor, leaving a light on, forgetting to hang something up, so on and so forth; I have nagged him and I’m actually surprised he hasn’t said anything back in our almost 4 years of marriage; at least nothing that would be considered as “biting back.”  (He knows better.. Just kidding!)

He has graciously accepted my nagging.

Now, before you judge my husband, I encourage you to read this article I found recently about not being a “Butthole Wife.” The Title may sound a little funny but it was such a great reminder to me, as I am sure it will be to you.

As a former Elementary teacher, Repetition was a key method to use for a lot of things… However, we can’t treat our spouses like our Elementary students (even when they act like it).

At this moment, you may be wondering what a “CONTINUAL DROPPING” is.

No, it’s not when a bird poos continuously, or when your newborn baby has non-stop diaper changes… or when you have diarrhea! Haha!

I looked up the phrase, “Continual Dropping” in the Bible and found it twice in the Book of Proverbs.

Proverbs 27:15 -“A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike.”

It’s been raining a lot here at our place and I actually have enjoyed it (mainly because the sun still manages to come out). Now, if it rained here for a whole week straight… I may not enjoy it as much.

If you think about it, if you’re the type of wife, fiance, or girlfriend that is constantly nagging your other half, I’m sure that relationship will be full of strife. Just as a continuous rainy day may not be as enjoyable, a contentious woman is the same – she’s not really an easy one to live or deal with.

Proverbs 19:13b – “…the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping.”

I can’t even remember how many times I’ve nagged my husband, and caused contention between us… mainly for me because I set certain expectations that my husband doesn’t really obtain; not because he doesn’t want to but because our priorities for certain things may not be on the same level. For example, after coming home from a long day’s work, my husband may just want to change into comfortable clothes right away to spend time with our girls…Now, I, on the other hand, may want him to help me clean up around the house. (Of course, some of you may be thinking that we just need to communicate that to each other) But that’s not my point… my point is… his higher priority coming home from work is to spend time with our two daughters whom he hasn’t seen all day… And honestly, I would rather prefer that than arguing with him about his leaving clothes on the floor.

Lately, I’ve been thinking… how can I NOT BE a continual dropping as a wife and as a mother?

So, here are 3 ways that I have been “trying.”

  1. Thank God for giving you another day to live. I am positive those that passed away at the airport shooting in Florida weren’t anticipating it to be their last day. It really breaks my heart that someone would do something like that, with no thought of the sanctity of human life. I pray for their families. Each day that is granted to us is a blessing from God and this is a blessing that sadly, many of us forget to thank God for. But how different would our days go if we started with a grateful heart? I’m sure they wouldn’t be perfect all the time but we get to choose how we react to the tasks that we are given or the obstacles that come our way.

828dc91d8dafae6d9eb5d22ecdeb2dad2. Treat every day with your spouse and your children as if it was your last day with them…  I have been saddened to hear news of people passing away because of illnesses or dying due to car accidents, weather accidents, etc. If we just thought about each day as it were our last with those that mean the most to us, I am POSITIVE that we would live it differently and treat “THEM” differently AND better!

3. Train yourself to walk in someone else’s shoes for  “a mile.” Ok, I don’t mean that “mile” part literally but I won’t stop you if you choose to. But really, before we judge someone or treat someone a certain way, think about how their day went (at work, at school, at home…) or what trials they may be going through. How sad would it be for a husband or wife to be treated better at their workplace than at home, right? But sadly, it happens EVERY DAY! A home should be a place that people should look forward to, not dread! The next time you feel frustrated because of your spouse’s lack of _____________ (you fill in the blank)… think about how their day was at work (it may not have gone as well as you think). Or the next time you get angry at your children for doing _____________ or not doing ___________(you fill in the blanks), think about how they feel when both of their parents work… or when they’ve been cooped up in the house “ALL DAY.”

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So, if you’re a wife or mother, (especially) I encourage you to

Stop Being a Continual Dropping!

 

BECAUSE IN THE END, You’ll realize that it was just a waste of your time.

Time that you could’ve used to enjoy picking up those clothes on the floor.

Time that you could’ve used to just “see the need, take the lead” and turn off the unused lights or hang something up.

Time that you could’ve used teaching and forgiving rather than being angry and regretting what you said later on to your little child who was innocent and just needed a little encouragement or push to do the right thing.

TIME…. that unfortunately, you cannot take back. You have already lost it and there is no re-do button.

Instead, you can just press forward with the REMINDER that

TIME IS VALUABLE AND MUST BE SPENT WISELY.

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***Featured Photo by Annie Spratt on Unsplash!

PRELUDE

LIFE. IT CONSISTS OF A BEGINNING, MIDDLE, AND END.  The only two that are evident are the beginning (birth) and the end (death).  We don’t really know when the middle of our life is, simply because we don’t know when the end of our life is. In addition, BEFORE YOU WERE EVEN BORN, YOU WERE ALREADY THOUGHT OF AND ON SOMEONE’S MIND.

WEBSTER’S 1828 DICTIONARY DEFINES “PRELUDE” as Something introductory or that shows what is to follow; something preceding which bears some relation or resemblance to that which is to follow.

Can you believe that your whole life is already planned out by an ALMIGHTY, ALL-POWERFUL, ALL-KNOWING GOD? The sad thing is that PLANS DON’T ALWAYS WORK OUT, do they? Especially, when we choose to do things for our own selfish pride or selfish ambitions.

You see, there are two perspectives in life – the world’s & God’s.

The World’s perspective says, “Do whatever pleases, satisfies, or benefits you.”

I’m not against doing things to please yourself. Hey, sometimes you have to have your “ME” time to stay sane. What is meant by world’s perspective is when EVERYTHING that you do is centered around pleasing , satisfying, or benefiting you.

On the contrary, God’s perspective is, “Do what pleases or satisfies Him and benefits the Kingdom of Heaven.”  If you really think about it, God doesn’t owe us anything. We owe Him everything. He sacrificed ALL HE HAD just so we could have what we need, and that “need” is a Saviour. God paid a debt He didn’t owe and we had a debt we couldn’t pay. All the things that we have are from God, especially LIFE.

Births and Deaths can have one thing in common – the celebrating of a life.

April 20, 2014 – BabyGirl LG is Born

When a baby is born, joy is experienced, no matter how much pain was involved. I remember giving birth to my first-born daughter. Those contractions were killer! (Can I get a witness?!?) I was already in so much pain at 3cm. I can still remember my husband telling me that HE NEVER WANTED ME TO GO THROUGH THAT AGAIN. Well, unfortunately for him,  9 months after LG was born, we found out we were expecting our second child! (Hallelujah for me & fear for my husband… haha! JK!)  Don’t worry, he regrets saying that and is VERY GRATEFUL FOR OUR SECOND DAUGHTER, AJ. Only a mother who has given birth can testify that the pain felt before giving birth was nothing compared to the joy when that baby came out and was placed in her arms, as she cried tears of joy – simply because a NEW LIFE was being celebrated.

October 22, 2015 – BabyGirl AJ is Born

When someone dies, a memorial service is usually held. Why? To remember the life that they lived. Sure, it may not have been a “PERFECT” life (which does not even exist) and sure, the person that died may have been a criminal but to some, they were loved, especially by family members and close friends. (Please don’t misunderstand me for thinking that it’s OK to be a criminal – OBVIOUSLY, it’s not!)  But can you see where I’m going with this?

When someone is born or dies, something is celebrated.

Now, there is only one person that knows when someone will be born and when someone will die. Death and life are in the power of the tongue (Proverbs 18:21 KJV).  Just as God spoke the world into existence, God decides when and how a person is born and when and how a person dies.

If we just engraved into our hearts and minds that OUR LIVES have a specific BLUEPRINT and that blueprint was designed by the Almighty Creator and that EACH LIFE was made for a SPECIFIC PURPOSE, then maybe we would choose to be WISER in how we lived our lives.

Instead of living for ourselves, we would live for God and others. After all, the two greatest commandments are to love God with all our hearts, soul, and mind and to love our neighbours (others) as ourselves. (Matthew 22:37-39 KJV)

If you are reading this, you may be at a point in your life where YOUR LIFE seems like it has no meaning; FRIEND, God made you for a purpose but it is up to you to find that purpose. (Stick around as we will be talking about PURPOSE in the next few weeks) But DON’T GIVE UP! Life may be difficult right now but that is what life is made up of. Without the difficulties of life, you wouldn’t be the strong person that you are or could be.

You may be reading this and thinking that you’ve been doing a good job with how you’ve lived your life and I would like to commend you! I’m sure it wasn’t easy to get to where you are right now but you have made good and wise decisions and you are reaping the benefits of that so KEEP IT UP but REMEMBER, don’t settle for where you are now – STRIVE TO BE BETTER AND DO BETTER!

Remember, The Best View Comes After the Hardest Climb!

You may be reading this and may not be either of two people that were described but rather someone who DOESN’T EVEN BELIEVE IN GOD. Many come to that point where they question God’s existence or goodness because of a tragedy that has occurred in their life. You have grown to be bitter towards God and life. But FRIEND, YOU CANNOT BE MAD AT SOMEONE THAT YOU BELIEVE DOES NOT EXIST. Remember that no matter how you feel about God, He still loves you. He loved you so much that HE SACRIFICED AND ALLOWED HIS ONLY SON to die for you… Yes, you! There is nothing that you could do or say that would change His love for you.

Collagetrio.com defined PRELUDE as the following:

“Think of it as “welcoming music.”  By no means bland, this is harmonious music with a calm, often pastoral air to it, designed to set a tone of relaxed composure, alleviate the stresses of traveling, and – added bonus! – it lets the guests know by ear where the ceremony will be located.  It usually starts between 15 and 30 minutes before the ceremony begins.”

No doubt, when you were born, there was some kind of celebration. But before anyone on this earth saw you, SOMEONE ALREADY KNEW YOU (Jeremiah 1:5 KJV). The last 15-30 minutes before you were born, God already had some music playing as if to prepare for your GRAND ENTRANCE.

So, if He knew you before you were even born, don’t you think it would be wise to keep your life in His Hands? After all, he knows what’s best for you!

 

LG @ 2 and 1/2 years young!

AJ @ 1 Year Young!

“We are designed by God for accomplishment, engineered for success, 

and endowed with seeds of greatness.”

– Christine Caine

I can’t see all that my two girls will accomplish, succeed, & be great in, but GOD DOES!

I would rather have Him steer the wheel for their lives than I do so and mess it up by my versions of ACCOMPLISHMENT, SUCCESS, and GREATNESS. They may not be bad, but for sure, they won’t be what God purposed for their lives.

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The Greatest Love of All

L o v e.

A word used so much but not shown enough. As a teenager who started attending church, I used to think everyone (Christians & Non-Christians) knew John 3:16 but the more I went through life, I was surprised to hear that knowledge of this verse was not as common as I had thought.

To save you some time, John 3:16 (KJV) says,

“For God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten Son that whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have everlasting life.”

When I say the word, “LOVE” what comes to your mind?

  • Your significant other
  • Your spouse
  • Your children
  • A best friend
  • Giving to others (materially, financially)
  • Receiving from others (materially, financially)
  • Time
  • Sex
  • God

As you can see from this list, I didn’t put “God” at the top of the list because it’s not as common for God to come to mind FIRST. Many think of their significant other, whether it’s a husband, wife, boyfriend, or girlfriend.

Why? People think of someone or something that can be seen, touched, or felt. Because He is a spirit, God cannot be touched, seen, or felt physically. (John 4:24a; John 1:18).

BUT, that doesn’t mean that God is not love!

Today, we will talk about the Greatest LOVE that anyone can ever have.

  1. God so loved the world…

A STRONG STATEMENT & FACT. God didn’t just love the world, He SO loved the world. He loved the world so much that He was compelled to do something – He gave!

    2.   That he gave his only begotten Son…

Christmas is just around the corner! In fact, TODAY is the official start of Autumn or Fall! This is my favorite time of the year (Sweater-Weather Time) and then after Fall, it’ll be Christmas Time! (Don’t judge me for playing my Christmas Playlist already!) It will be here before you know it! But during Christmas, GIVING is the norm! Parents break their banks just to get their children gifts (my husband already got my first daughter one of her presents, tsk-tsk), spouses go a “little” over their budget to get those special gifts for him/her, grandparents get their grandchildren gifts that they probably will only use for a week and won’t even care about after that, (while the parents are thinking, “Can we just have $$$ instead? LOL!) and so on! I will have a whole blog about Christmas-Time when it’s here but for now, let’s get back to #2!

Because God loved the world so much, he gave. Well, what did he give? He gave His Son, Jesus. To do what? To die on the cross with the sins of the world “placed” upon His back. Well, what does that have to do with me? My friend, it has EVERYTHING TO DO WITH YOU.  I often tell children, if you were the only person in this world, God would have still sent his Son to die for you because that’s how much He loved you!

If you’re a parent, can you imagine having your son (or daughter) die for the sins of             E V E R  Y O N E- your enemies & people that haven’t even been born yet, not knowing what kind of people they weree going to turn out to be? I HAVE NEVER MET A PARENT who said to me, “Yeah, sure, I’ll let my child die for the sins of everyone!” No, being the human beings that we are, we would’ve responded with, “Are you CUH-RAZY?!? You are out of your mind!”

But THAT IS EXACTLY WHAT GOD DID!

He loved you so much that he sacrificed his Son and some might even consider him crazy! Was God out of his mind? In my opinion, YES. But not in the way you’re thinking. Our minds can only comprehend so much. When God allowed HIS ONLY SON to die for the world – past, present, & future, He had YOU in MIND & having you in mind was more important than having His Son alive at that moment. God hates sin so much that there needed to be a payment for it and that was death (Romans 6:23a) – and it had to be T  H  E      D  E  A  T  H      O  F     H  I  S     O  N  E     &     O  N  L  Y    S  O  N!!!

3. That whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life…

THERE IS HOPE! I believe what I believe because of THIS HOPE! If it weren’t for this HOPE, my belief would be in vain. If John 3:16 just said, “For God so loved the world”, it wouldn’t make sense, because the word “for” is a preposition, meaning that it is a connecting word – it glues a noun or pronoun into a sentence. It goes on to say, “that he gave his only begotten Son”.

Some may think, “Aww…that’s so sweet; he gave his Son.” Others may think, “Aww… that’s sad; he let his Son die?” If the verse stopped there, the hope that many Christians have right now wouldn’t be the same hope, simply because it just says (paraphrased), “God loves you so much that he gave his Son.” (Oh——kay.) I guess that’s good. People are left with room to doubt and that is not what God wanted; He wanted to assure them so the verse continues…

“that whosoever believeth in him should not perish but have everlasting life”

BOOM!!! There it is! God assures us of HOPE! Simply, if anyone – you, me, your mom, your dad, A N Y O N E believes in him (JESUS), they will not perish (die & go to hell) but will live in Heaven F O R E V E R with God!!!

How awesome is that?!?

Seriously, if you just simply believe in him – believe that He loves you so much that He died on the cross for YOUR SINS and CHOOSE to accept Him as your PERSONAL LORD & SAVIOUR, then you can LIVE FOREVER, in Heaven! Just as God had a choice in whether He should give His only begotten Son, YOU HAVE A CHOICE – to accept the One who died for you or to reject him.

IN CONCLUSION, what is LOVE?

(I came up with an acronym [I LOVE ACRONYMS] to help us remember love in another way)

 TIMELESS TRUTH: It is Letting Others’ Value be Exposed. God saw that we human beings had value and worth and chose to expose or show that by giving the nearest & dearest to Him, to die for us.

Thank you for taking the time to read this post.

I know it was long but I sure hope that it was a help to you.

If you want to know more about accepting Jesus Christ as your Personal Lord & Savior, please contact me with your info. I would love to share to you how making that decision changed my life FOREVER & FOR GOOD!

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